Boring Men Never Become Less Boring

My girlfriend has been dating this guy for a few months and so I hear a lot about their relationship. They have been dating and there are times when she finds him boring. Super nice guy and everything but she has been moved to tears by boredom. I’ve often asked her why she continues to stay with him if talking to a pole can at times bring about deeper conversations. Her reasoning is that she’s hoping she can spark some excitement into him making him the perfect man. I disagree. I don’t believe that a boring man can suddenly become less boring, I think he’s boring for a reason; that’s why these men always end up in the friend zone. I myself have dated the boring man so I feel like I’ve done extensive research on the subject. There are undeniable traits of a boring man, and here they are:  

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  1. They Don’t Mind Waiting

The problem with boring men is they don’t feel their time is valuable and they will prove it to you. How this works from a dating standpoint is simple. These are the guys that take forever to ask a girl out, or who will spend too much time on a woman who isn’t even interested.

  1. They Expect Something For Being Nice

These are the guys that don’t understand why a girl is not falling in love with him because he is “so nice” to her. What boring guys don’t seem to get is that everyone is nice. That doesn’t mean that it makes them immediately dateable.  A nice guy is not reason enough to date someone. There are no extra points for being nice, guys! It’s called being human.

  1. When Life Isn’t Fair They Get Upset

When the going gets tough these guys can’t handle the pressure; they will pout, whine and moan when life doesn’t go their way. Someone who is exciting and self-possessed won’t behave in this manner. They will roll up their sleeves and get the job done, no matter what life throws at them. Don’t date a guy with a victim mentality.

  1. They Are Gentle Towards Women

Boring men handle the women they are interested in with kid gloves. The sexy men will be aggressive and go after what they want while a boring guy will be overly friendly, soft and gentle so that he can show us what a harmless man he is. You know the guy in your office who everyone says would never hurt a fly? That’s the boring guy. These men are worried they will scare us off if they don’t appear unintimidating.

They exhibit behaviors such as:

  • They will always follow a joke or flirt with “didn’t mean it.”
  • They will laugh nervously and smile a lot
  • Overly chumming, hugging women or hi-fiving them, overly excited when they greet them, and letting women vent to them.
  1. They Have No Interests or Passions Of Their Own

Most sexy and exciting men have lives of their own. They are either involved in sports or going to the gym, always competing against other men to be the best. A boring and unsexy man will have a lack of passion. There are men out there that have no drive to be the best and nothing to

A man with passion is very attractive to a woman because she wants to be close to the fire that is burning inside of him. A boring man doesn’t strive for anything and is fine with the status quo which a woman can find boring especially if she is ambitious.
These are just a few of the qualities that you can look out for when jumping head first into the dating game. Keep a look out for the boring man and don’t waste your time trying to change him. Boring men will always be boring.

10 Signs That She’s Into You

10 Signs That She’s Into You

When some women are interested in men, they may be forward and upfront about their feelings. The worst that can happen is the man will reject them, but for some, the idea of being turned down is too much to bear. Instead of being open about how they feel, they drop subtle hints until a guy makes a move. The problem with this approach is that not all guys will be able to read a girl’s signals or know if her actions are saying “I’m interested in you” or “leave me alone.” In order for this to work, men need to be aware of the little things that women will do to show their interest and get their attention without being obvious.

Here are 10 signs that you can look for if you want to know if a woman is into you or not.

She laughs at you

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People love to laugh, whether they are male or female. If you have a great sense of humor, that is a huge plus. If a woman laughs at you, you are definitely scoring points, but if she makes an effort to lock eyes while she is laughing, this is a good sign.

She checks you out

It is sometimes hard for people to hide their attraction to another person. With this being the case, when a woman is into you, she will most likely check you out a few times. It could be your eyes, hair, mouth or even your muscles she is drawn to, but the point is, if she is checking you out, there is a chance she wants you.

She makes eye contact

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Eye contact can be uncomfortable for some, but when a woman is interested in you, she will not shy away from locking eye with you. Take advantage of these moments, and look into her eyes. She may be trying to establish a connection, so if you like her, just go with it.

She gets dolled up for you

There is no need for women to get dolled up everyday, and not everyone does. But, if she knows she is going to run into her crush, she will put some effort into her appearance. Depending on the circumstances, you can’t assume that she is only dressed nice because of you, but if it is a situation where the two of you are hanging out, it would be safe to make that assumption.

She confides in you

Women tend to be very private people when they are just meeting someone. It is not attractive to go spilling your guts to strangers or tell the your deepest, darkest secrets, so for the most part, they don’t reveal too much. If a woman takes the time to tell you about herself, that means she wants you to get to know her better. She’s interested in you, but in order for things to go anywhere, you need to know things about one another. Her opening up to you is the start of that. She is risking you being turned off, but in the end, if all goes well, you will be attracted to her even more.

She touches your body

Arms, hands, shoulders, knees. There are a number of places that a woman will try to touch you during conversation. Touching is a sign of affection, but men can also see this as a sign that a woman likes him. Don’t be afraid to reciprocate and touch her back. You don’t want to be creepy and touch her inappropriately, so maybe something small like touching her hand will suffice.

She sits close to you

A girl will only get so close if she is not interested in you because she may not want to give you the wrong idea. If she is into you, she will probably sit a little bit closer than any other girls. This is her attempt to mark her territory and prevent other females from approaching you.

She scans your face

There is probably one or a few things about your face that your crush finds attractive. Maybe you have eyes that she gets lost in or a set of kissable lips? Whatever it may be, she will likely be scanning your face and admiring your looks whenever you are together.

She initiates conversation

It is always a struggle when two people want to text each other, but don’t want to initiate conversation. Society has made people think that the first person to text is weaker or more sensitive, but it really means they are brave. The ice is never going to be broken if no one takes that first step, so if a girl texts or calls you first, she probably likes you at least a little. Don’t let her start the conversation every time you talk, because she may get confused about your feelings for her. Every once in awhile, be sure to step up to the plate and shoot her a text before she gets the chance to.

She wants to learn more about you

No one is going to waste their time hearing about someone else’s life unless they genuinely have an interest in the person they are learning about. This is your chance to let her know who you really are, so don’t be afraid to share stories that show her how kind, caring and sweet you can be. You want to appeal to her and the best way to do this is to let her know what you are really about.

You may expect people to be forward and open about what they’re feeling and what they want, but not everyone is comfortable going after the man or woman of their dreams. When people fail to be upfront about their feelings, they often try to convey things through small acts and gestures. Women may be hard to read, but that doesn’t mean it is impossible to do. Part of picking up their signs and signals requires men to pay close attention. If you are able to do that, then you may be able to recognize that the woman you have been pining over has actually been seeking your attention.

 

Happy Valentine’s Day! Top Bachelor and Bachelorettes in Santa Barbara

Today is national love day,  dreaded among all singletons everywhere.  What are your V-Day plans?  We recommend keeping busy, hitting up the gym, a thriller movie or catching up on your tv shows.  Billions Season 2, Episode 1 just came out,  if you haven’t watched it I highly recommend it!

The Catch got a lot of Klout thanks to our amazing ambassadors at UCSB,  CEO Shannon Ong is also an alumnus there so no doubt we have some good looking ladies and gents at the school, who are they? Here are just a few of them below!


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Location: Santa Barbara, CA
Work: South Coast Deli, Student
3 things I look for in a Guy:
    makes me laugh, great smile, I can tease them/joke around
Pet peeves: rude, ignorant or unnecessarily mean people
Favorite food: extra crunchy peanut butter, but I also put hot sauce on literally everything
Favorite band: Fleetwood Mac, Tame Impala, The Beatles, J. Cole, Chance the Rapper, Solange Knowles, Missy Elliot

Jack Flowers, Age 19

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Location: Ojai, CA
Work: Service assistant at the UCEN
3 things I look for in a girl:
   a person who thinks of themselves, someone who is interested in cool hobbies, and someone with high cheek bones
Pet peeves: tailgating
Favorite food: crab
Favorite band: Gorillaz

Kaelyn Tomkins, Age 21

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Current Residence or City: Santa Barbara, CA
Work: Starbucks
3 Things You Look for in a guy
    Sarcasm, honesty, humor
Pet peeves: stopping in the middle of crowds
Favorite Food: pot roast
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Current Residence or City: Isla Vista, Goleta
Work: CEO at PockyFix Mobile Repair, marketing intern for TheCatch
3 Things You Look for in a girl
    kindness, maturity, self discipline and hygiene
Pet peeves:false accusations can be quite annoying,  people throwing attitudes towards me, someone cries over trivial things
Favorite Food:Asian food in general, from dumplings to ramen, fried rice to sushi
Favorite Band:  listen to all types, but if had to choose Big Bang from Korea

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How to Rock Singleness during the Holidays and New Year

No doubt dating in the holidays is hard if you are single. All those holiday parties, awkward work parties, and family get-togethers.

Here are a couple tips from your friends at The Catch on how to rock during this holiday season and New Years.

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  • Be a yes wo(man).  Don’t avoid holidays parties or social functions because you are dateless.  What ends up happening if you flake out is you end up alone,  being a couch potato and pack on those calories while watching your favorite show reruns.  Sure you may get the “oh you don’t have a date?” from your annoying aunt or friend,  but there is more to gain than lose here.  For one, you can get creative on your response with excuses like – yeah I just broke up with him/her,  I’m focused on me right now and doing really well with my career or even snarky like “I’m all about casual dating.”  And there is always that chance that you may meet that him/her at the restaurant or bar you are at and you guys can bond over spiked egg nog.  No one to kiss at midnight?  There could be a handsome stranger waiting for you.
  • Be Open Minded.  We all have that perfect man or woman we want to take home for the holidays and kiss on New Years. For most of my early 20s I was focused too much on just looks and not the brain.  All I ended up with was a lower IQ and always feeling fat.  Make your resolution about finding the one that can make you laugh.  Swipe right on that guy and then actually do follow up in a convo – I know it’s hard but you can do it!
  • Reach out to Old Friends.  Don’t be the guy/girl who does those massive text messages that say something impersonal and generic like “Happy Holidays” or “Happy New Year”.  Actually take the time out to reach out individually to people whom you lost touch with,  catch up with them, and chances are they may have some new friends that may lead to a potential date.
  • Go Grocery Shopping and look damn good.  There have been countless times when I have been picked up at a grocery store.  Why? You usually are alone and usually find a lot of single people shopping as well.  In any case, the single ones are easy to spot based on their shopping cart.  If you are bold enough ask a guy in the fruit aisle “how do you know if a mango is ripe?”

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  • Do Something New –  go into your Facebook events and find something interesting that you won’t normally do and do it!  For example Morning Glory, a yoga class, Aerial Silks, hip hop.
  • Workout.  Working out releases endorphins,  and endorphins make you happy.  The more you work out the better you feel about yourself and it shows in your confidence, and confidence scores more dates.

Download The Catch Today and find that date for New Years! 

Most Eligible Filipino Men and Women

Who are the most eligible singles in the Phillippines?

The Catch, a popular dating app that has gotten a lot of great traction in San Francisco and Los Angeles,  just launched in the Phillippines.

How Does The Catch Work? The Catch gives the main control to the female user, it is also a multi-player game where women get to ask men questions they care about. Up to four men are hand-picked for each game based on their profiles. Unlike other apps, the male contestants are able to avoid open rejection, as their answers are anonymous, enabling personality to be as important as appearance and credentials.

“Dating is much more than just a swipe right or left based on looks.  People are made to feel special and important in the act of getting to know each other, which is why The Bachelor is so successful. Both bring back essence of dating, chivalry, flirtation, and capture first date jitters through their gaming concept ending with a process of elimination.”says Chris Bukowski, famed alumnus of the hit TV Show “The Bachelor” franchise, and The Catch supporter.”

The app has put together a list of the hottest bachelor and bachelorettes that live in the Phillippines or are Filipino. In no particular order here they are below:


Catherine Ocariz, Age 28 

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Current Residence or City: Fort Bonifacio, Metro Manila, Philippines
Work: Real Estate Professional
3 Things You Look for in a guy/girl
    Well travelled, Driven, God fearing
Pet peeves: chain smoker, takes way too much selfies of himself, shortcut text messaging
Favorite Food: Japanese
Favorite Band: Red Hot Chili Peppers

Nikki Lazaro, Age 30

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Location: Manila, Philippines
Work: Manager in an FMCG company
3 things I look for in a guy:
    driven, good sense of humor, grounded/respectful
Pet peeves: being late, people driving like there are no other cars on the road,  people texting while you’re talking to them
Favorite food: dessert, dessert, and more dessert
Favorite band: Coldplay

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Location: Nestle Philippines
3 things I look for in a woman:
    has a kind heart, smart & articulate but fun, has passions in life
Pet peeves: Someone who always has to be right, People who hate and are mean to kids, Shallow-minded people
Favorite food: Spanish & Japanese
Favorite band: PHOENIX

Gisa Paredes, Age 30
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Residence: Quezon City, Metro Manila
Work: Psychologist, Founder of Healing Minds PH
3 things I look for in a guy:
      Spirituality (not religiosity), humor, intellect
Pet peeves: poor manners (table manners and basic delicadeza)
Favorite food: Japanese
Favorite band: None in particular. Favorite album — The miseducation of Lauryn Hill

Philip Pratte, Age: 29
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Current Residence or City: Makati
Work: Managing Director for Micro-financing firm
3 Things You Look for in a girl:
Active and healthy lifestyle, Spontaneous, Considerate, I  will sneak a 4th one in, attractive :p
Pet peeves: inconsiderate people
Favorite Food: Probably the most difficult question here. It varies but I am in a            Spanish/Mexican phase now
Favorite Band: From Phoenix to old school Chainsmokers mixes (before they got famous). A lot of variety.

Patricia Marie V. Pedico, Age 23
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Current Residence: Malabon
Work: Customer Service Representative
3 things you look for a guy:
   Loyal, Responsible, Funny, Chubby
Favorite food: Spaghetti
Favorite Band: The Script


Are you Ready to Play?  Download the Catch here
Interested in being in our Top Bachelor/Bachelorette List?  Please email us at hello@thecatch.co

8 Tips For Making Your Dating Life Fun Again

8 Tips For Making Your Dating Life Fun Again

Do you feel like you’re in a bit of a rut? Does your dating life feel more like a chore than  anything else? Are you having a hard time getting excited for dates these days? If you feel like you’re in a slump and you need to awaken things, then it’s time to put some fun back into your dating life again. Though you may feel resistant to this at first, you will find that dating can and should be fun!

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The thing to remember is that sometimes you have to get a little outside of your comfort zone. You have to say yes to dates that you may have typically turned down, for you never know when an opportunity may arise. You have to go into each date with an open mind and let yourself live in that moment. Of course you always have to listen to your instinct, but if you can go in with a positive attitude and an open mind you may find love in a really great way.

If you want to enjoy dating again and find the right person, then here are some simple but effective ways to make dating fun again—and to hopefully find the best match in the process.

  1. Don’t say no to a potential opportunity: Though you may have said no in the past to a date that didn’t seem to fit you on paper, you just never know when a great thing may lie before you. Try saying yes to a potential date for it could lead to something great. See what happens and put yourself out there. Saying yes this one time could lead to something really great, and you never know until you try.
  1. Plan something slightly outside of your comfort zone: Try out rock climbing, a hike, or even a new exotic cuisine for a dinner date. Do something that’s a little outside of your comfort zone, simply because it might be a lot of fun. Be open to new ideas and try something you’ve never done before, as it may be an excellent bonding opportunity with the right person.

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  1. Go in with a positive attitude and see how it changes things: Give yourself a little pep talk and prepare yourself for a positive date. Before each and every date make a conscious effort to go in with a positive attitude and see how much more enjoyable the date becomes. Even if it doesn’t end up being a long term match, try an attitude adjustment and see for yourself how much more fun you can have.
  1. Talk before hand to make your date more enjoyable and much less anxious: If you communicate before and after the date, it can take some of the anxiety out of things. Make it a point to chat over email, text, or the phone so that you get a chance to really know each other outside of the dating experience. Then when the date comes around you are much more comfortable around each other.
  1. Celebrate who you are and that will surely draw the right people in. Confidence instantly makes you more attractive. Be happy with who you are and this will draw the right person to you. It will make your dating life far more enjoyable and successful, and you get the added bonus of being happy with the person that you are too.
  1. Try a new dating avenue that you never considered before: This is your time to try new things so go speed dating, try a new online dating site, or go on a blind date if this is new to you. (Try TheCatch, of course!) Get outside of your own head and try a new dating avenue that you weren’t sure about before but are ready to embrace now. This could help you to finally meet the right person, and you may have a lot of fun along the way.
  1. Learn to laugh and go in without any assumptions or judgments: Allow yourself to enjoy yourself, to kick back, and to laugh a little bit. Go in without any preconceived notions and stay away from any judgments. Laugh more, worry less, and the dates are sure to be much more enjoyable.
  1. Put time into looking your best and then leave the rest up to your sparkling personality: There is something to be said for dressing up and looking your best, for then you are confident and truly your best. Do your part and then leave the rest up to being yourself, and you may find that your entire mindset changes. Helping yourself to look your best is great, and then it’s time to enjoy the date knowing that you can feel good about everything. See for yourself, for this is how to have fun and actually enjoy the dating process for once in your life!

Top 10 Ways to Make a Man Swoon Over You

What is it about some women that makes men swoon over them? Sure, they’re attractive and sexy, but there has got to be more than their appearance that keeps men wanting them. Since looking good will only get you so far, when you are in a relationship you want to be sure you do certain things to keep your man interested and make him realize that he’s hit the jackpot. There is a lot that goes into the making this happen, but if you play your cards right, you will have your man falling in love and swooning over you in no time.

Here are the top 10 ways to make a man swoon over you.

Show your appreciation

When your boyfriend does something sweet, it is important that you show him that you appreciate his kind gesture. It may not be something that you need to do all the time, but in return, do something special for him. When you show a person that you appreciate them, it makes them want to continue to do nice things for you, but it also allows them to see what type of person you are.

Show interest in his hobbies

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Not every man and woman have the same interests and hobbies. It is very common for couples to want to do different things, but every once in awhile you should make an attempt to show an interest in your boyfriend’s hobbies. Whether it be playing video games are going golfing, it will show him that you pay attention to what he likes and and that you have no problem with the things that he is interested in.

Cook for him

It has been said that the best way to a man’s heart is through his stomach. For some men, this is true. If you know how to cook, or even if you don’t, you should try to prepare meals for your boyfriend any chance you get. It may not have to be the best meal of his life, but are you taking the time out to make sure he is fed, which will make you more desirable in his eyes.

Send him naughty texts and pics

You don’t need to be classy and appropriate at all moments throughout your relationship. Men love to see that sexy, exciting side of their girlfriends, so every once in awhile send him a naughty text or pics. It is up to you, but you may want to leave nothing to the imagination. Chances are, whether you show only a little skin or bear it all, he will be longing  for you.

Dress Sexy

Your boyfriend should your body attractive no matter what size you are, but even if you aren’t sure, don’t be afraid to flaunt what you’ve been given. Men love to see their women all dolled up and dressed sexy. Schedule a fancy dinner and break out that skin tight, sexy red dress that he loves so much and show him why who’s the real winner in the relationship.

Show off your sense of humor

Everyone loves to laugh, so if you have a great sense of humor, it is important that your boyfriend sees this. You don’t need to play pranks on him or send him funny memes all the time, but do try to enjoy a comedy or make fun of things together. When couples can laugh together it shows that they have a connection, but it can also deepen their love and understanding of one another.

Be supportive

Everyone will need someone to stand by them at certain points in their life. When you are with someone, it is part of the job description to be there for them in a time of need. While some people don’t feel it is necessary to be present during these times, others recognize the importance of being there for someone when they are not doing well mentally, physically, financially or emotionally. Men can be tough and sometimes act like they do not need anyone, but you know your boyfriend better than anyone else, so if they need you, you need to be there.

Show him that you care about him

There are a number of things you can do to show your boyfriend that you care for him. It could be a small gesture like folding his laundry and putting it away, or something a bit bigger like getting him that expensive watch he has been eyeing. Women often complain about their boyfriends not listening to them or caring about how they really feel, but men could have the same thoughts and complaints about women. You don’t need to buy your boyfriend everything under the sun or tend to his every need as if you are his maid, but it is okay to show him that you care.

Give him his space

Women can sometimes get needy and clingy when they’re in a relationship, so it is important to give your boyfriend space when he needs it. Ideally, you will want to do this before he even asks for it. Having to tell your significant other that they are smothering you or that you need space isn’t always the easiest conversation to have, so to help avoid having that awkward discussion, you should just assume that every once in awhile your boyfriend will need some alone time. This is good for you because while he is enjoying his alone time, you can enjoy yours, too.

Ask him for help

Men like to feel needed by their girlfriends, so even if it is something small, don’t hesitate to ask him for help. You also want to be sure to ask him for help when you really need him for something as well. While men do love women are independent, you don’t want to make him feel like you don’t need him at all. You want to feel like he needs you and that he knows that you can come to him when you need help, so why not make sure that feeling is mutual?

What NOT To Do On Your Dating Profile

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Creating the perfect online dating profile can take some time. Along with having to craft a perfectly worded statement about who you are and what you are looking for, you have to make sure you sound interesting and spell every word correctly. People are harsh and very quick to pass someone by for the smallest things. From crooked teeth and bushy eyebrows to a perfectly trim waste and healthy, clear skin, there are a lot of different people with a lot of different features that you will run into when you are trying your hand at online dating.

Even though no one is perfect, people still like to pretend they are, which means they will skip over those who don’t meet their standards. With you knowing that people will judge you solely based on your profile pictures and what is in your “About Me” section, there is never any telling how many people will try to connect with you. This type of dating can be fun and entertaining, but having a successful run at it  and increasing your chances of finding love means taking note of the things that you just shouldn’t do on your profile.

Here a few things you should not do on your online dating profile.

Be rude

You want to appeal to other online daters. So when you create your profile, you do not want to come off rude, inconsiderate or callous. People have different thoughts and opinions on various subjects, and while yours may differ from mosts, you don’t want to say the wrong. You should also expect that people you would never give a chance to might contact you. It is true that there are creepers online who may only contact you looking for a one night stand, but it is likely that no matter what you say on your profile, someone you do not want to talk to will reach out. Telling them to leave you alone or not to message you just won’t work. Should this happen, you should handle it accordingly instead of writing something inappropriate on your profile.

Be vulgar

People create online dating profiles for various reasons. One person may be looking to find someone to settle down with, while another may be simply trying to find someone to make their friend with benefits. Regardless of what type of intimate relationship you are looking for, you do not want to be vulgar on your profile. Not everyone is okay with speaking about sex openly, so you want to be careful with what you say when you are informing people of what type of relationship you were looking for online. Mentioning that you have a foot fetish is one thing, but going into grave detail about it is another.

Lie

It is never okay to make people believe something about you that is untrue. You may not necessarily be proud of certain facts about yourself, but you do not want to create an image of yourself that can easily be disproven within seconds of you meeting someone in person. When you write about yourself on your profile, discuss the positive things about yourself, but don’t be afraid to mention your flaws either. People like when someone is aware of what makes them special, but also what makes them human. No one is perfect, so if you go on and on about how great you are on your profile, it is likely that very few people will believe you anyway.

This suggestion goes for your photos as well. People think it is okay to lie and post photos of others and say that the picture is of them when it really isn’t. If there is anything that MTV’s Catfish has taught us all it’s that sooner or later you will be found out. It may not be this year or the next, but if you find someone you really like, the truth will have to be revealed if you want to carry out a real relationship. Avoid having to explain later and only post pictures of yourself.

Posts revealing photos

If you are really online looking for love, you do not want to post photos of yourself that are too revealing. Women often make the mistake of posting photos that reveal their cleavage, stomach and other parts of their body that people probably shouldn’t see until the second or third date, if not later. If you present yourself as if you are a piece of meat, that is how other online daters are going to treat you. It is best that you post tasteful photos of yourself that will make people want to know who you are and what is going on in your brain instead of your pants.

Talk too much about yourself

It is helpful for you to talk about yourself, seeing as how it is your profile and all. However, people want to know what you are looking for in a significant other. Ideally, you will want people to read your profile, get an idea of what you are looking for and determine if they are that person before they message you. People who are in no way a good fit for you may still contact you even though you’ve clearly stated what you want, but at least you didn’t fill your profile with three pages worth of information about yourself. Tell people about you, but don’t come off as a narcissist.

Online dating may be similar to dating in person, but there are also many differences. When people read your profile, you want them to fall in love with you, not block you after reading two lines. What you tell people about yourself is important because it affects who will contact you and whether or not you find the one you have been looking for all this time. Ultimately, you are going to put what you want on your profile, but do keep in mind that there are some things that do not need to be shared or mentioned on online.

8 Tips For Making Your Dating Life Fun Again

Do you feel like you’re in a bit of a rut? Does your dating life feel more like a chore than  anything else? Are you having a hard time getting excited for dates these days? If you feel like you’re in a slump and you need to awaken things, then it’s time to put some fun back into your dating life again. Though you may feel resistant to this at first, you will find that dating can and should be fun!

The thing to remember is that sometimes you have to get a little outside of your comfort zone. You have to say yes to dates that you may have typically turned down, for you never know when an opportunity may arise. You have to go into each date with an open mind and let yourself live in that moment. Of course you always have to listen to your instinct, but if you can go in with a positive attitude and an open mind you may find love in a really great way.

If you want to enjoy dating again and find the right person, then here are some simple but effective ways to make dating fun again—and to hopefully find the best match in the process.

 

  1. Don’t say no to a potential opportunity: Though you may have said no in the past to a date that didn’t seem to fit you on paper, you just never know when a great thing may lie before you. Try saying yes to a potential date for it could lead to something great. See what happens and put yourself out there. Saying yes this one time could lead to something really great, and you never know until you try.

 

  1. Plan something slightly outside of your comfort zone: Try out rock climbing, a hike, or even a new exotic cuisine for a dinner date. Do something that’s a little outside of your comfort zone, simply because it might be a lot of fun. Be open to new ideas and try something you’ve never done before, as it may be an excellent bonding opportunity with the right person.

 

  1. Go in with a positive attitude and see how it changes things: Give yourself a little pep talk and prepare yourself for a positive date. Before each and every date make a conscious effort to go in with a positive attitude and see how much more enjoyable the date becomes. Even if it doesn’t end up being a long term match, try an attitude adjustment and see for yourself how much more fun you can have.

 

  1. Talk before hand to make your date more enjoyable and much less anxious: If you communicate before and after the date, it can take some of the anxiety out of things. Make it a point to chat over email, text, or the phone so that you get a chance to really know each other outside of the dating experience. Then when the date comes around you are much more comfortable around each other.

 

  1. Celebrate who you are and that will surely draw the right people in. Confidence instantly makes you more attractive. Be happy with who you are and this will draw the right person to you. It will make your dating life far more enjoyable and successful, and you get the added bonus of being happy with the person that you are too.

 

  1. Try a new dating avenue that you never considered before: This is your time to try new things so go speed dating, try a new online dating site, or go on a blind date if this is new to you. (Try TheCatch, of course!) Get outside of your own head and try a new dating avenue that you weren’t sure about before but are ready to embrace now. This could help you to finally meet the right person, and you may have a lot of fun along the way.

 

  1. Learn to laugh and go in without any assumptions or judgments: Allow yourself to enjoy yourself, to kick back, and to laugh a little bit. Go in without any preconceived notions and stay away from any judgments. Laugh more, worry less, and the dates are sure to be much more enjoyable.

 

  1. Put time into looking your best and then leave the rest up to your sparkling personality: There is something to be said for dressing up and looking your best, for then you are confident and truly your best. Do your part and then leave the rest up to being yourself, and you may find that your entire mindset changes. Helping yourself to look your best is great, and then it’s time to enjoy the date knowing that you can feel good about everything. See for yourself, for this is how to have fun and actually enjoy the dating process for once in your life!

How To Keep Yourself Safe

By Jamie McAfee

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We Teach People How to Treat Us
This may sound the most cliché statement that doesn’t really make sense, but let’s break it down. It basically means that the best time to lay down the law in the relationship is in the beginning. Successful couples know when they have stepped over the line and address it, instead of creating a boundary once someone has crossed it. Don’t be afraid to speak up. A respectful, solid person will respect your limits.

Actions Speak Louder Than Words
In relationships there are two things-what a person tells you and what a person shows you. If you’re just getting to know someone on the phone, through email, or from online dating you’re banking on words more than actions. The danger is that you can feel really close to someone who simply can’t live up to the description of themselves. The world is full of lazy, selfish people but who describes themselves as such? Spend some time observing what your romantic interest does. If you don’t like what you see, run for the hills.

Keep it Real
Fantasy is good and all but it can set you up for failure. Don’t come into the relationship with a hug sack of expectations. Someone can seem like your knight in shining armor only because you are wearing your knight in shining armor goggles. If someone seems too good to be true, they probably are. Stay sober literally and metaphorically so you can see who they really are.

Take it Slow
Real love takes time to grow. Let things progress slowly and naturally. You want to be apart of the relationship and its unfurling but you also what to be an objective observer noting quirks and habits about the person, and also how you feel when you’re around them. Safety is often an illusion and there’s no guarantee of it. Human beings can be pretty unpredictable. Be careful and take one step at a time.

Last, but not least…

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Trust in yourself that you’ll carefully select a good person. Trust in yourself that you’ll know when someone isn’t who they say they are. And trust in yourself that no matter what happens you will prevail!