Flirting Tips

How to be a good flirt. Flirting is actually a very important part of dating. It is not rocket science, but there are some flirting strategies that you can implement to make your dating life more successful. It is essential in dating because it lets the other person know you are interested without directly saying so. Flirting can make you come off like a stage 5 clinger when done wrong. There is a definite fine line. The tips below will have you be a flirting pro whether in person or online!

  • Maintain eye contact

Eye contact is so important! Don’t stare like a creep, but casually glance over and give a smile

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  • Smile

Smiling is not only sexy, but a few glances and a big smile, gives a clear sign that you are interested in talking and being approached. Don’t be afraid to show your pearly whites!

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  • Soft touch

Touching someone’s arm when speaking is a clear sign of interest. It is sure tell way that you like the person and that attraction is there.

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  • Compliment

Who doesn’t like a sincere and sweet compliment? Try complimenting someone’s eyes, smile, outfit, etc. This is always an excellent way to flirt, but in a non sexual way

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Next time you are out and about and spot that cutie you would love to talk to, try one or two of these tips! It will be well received and could lead to something incredible. You can take it a step further by exchanging numbers. Who knows, you could be on your way to a new and amazing romance that started with just a simple smile.

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Online Dating Profile Tips

Online dating can be a challenge in itself. Constantly swiping and scrolling through thousands of profiles. You want to stand out and be noticed. You want to be different than all the rest. Lets get real. No one is swiping right for a blurry pic, a shirtless mirror selfie, or a frat boy slamming a beer. Attractive? I think not. The tips below will have you shine like a diamond, attracting high quality matches, that could just be your catch.

 

  • Get Professional Pictures

Investing in some creative and professional shots will do wonders for you! They look amazing, are eye catching, and will get you noticed. Just think, a stellar photo or some circa 1999 photo that you randomly found buried in your facebook. Yea, point made.

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  • Clear, flattering photos where you are wearing a smile!

Smile!! Big, big smile!! Everyone is attracted to happiness, carefreeness, and a beautiful light energy. Nothing conveys this more than a beautiful smile. Don’t post pictures of an angry face or duck lips. So not a good look.

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  • Show your personality

Display yourself doing something you love! Whether it is hiking, the beach, a picnic, a sport, etc; this is eye catching and gives an idea of what you are like!

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  • Full body and face shots

Always include 2 full body pictures and two solo pictures of yourself. Show yourself off! Choose flattering angles and lighting to really let yourself shine.

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Follow these simple tips and you will be well on your way to online dating success and having more matches than you know what to do with!

Best Dating Tips

Best dating tips!

Now is the best time for love! With 50% of the population being single, your chances for love are in your favor. Dating in general can be scary for some. Putting yourself out there, fearing rejection, and some having to go on countless dates. Dating doesn’t have to be a dreadful experience! It can be fun, liberating, and successful. With the right attitude and some minor adjustments, Love is much closer than you think. Below are some tips to have you have the best first date and improve your luck!

 

 

  • Be confident and get your mind right. You are worthy

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  • Be Yourself. Getting out of your head and being authentic is key

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  • Smile and be happy! No one likes a negative Nelly
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  • Laugh and have fun. Don’t take things so seriously. There is no fun in that.

 

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  • Choose a great date location. A fun lively vibe is a great choice.

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  • Dress to impress. Show up in something flattering, comfortable, and that really shows who you are

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  • Stay away from unpleasant topics. Enough said.

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  • Ask questions and lean in. Be curious and open

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  • Stay tuned for future posts on more tips and advice 💗

 

 

The 5 Worst First Date Mistakes

The 5 Worst First Date Mistakes

The first date can be a wonderful thing if you put your mind to it. If you go in with the right attitude it may very well lead to a second date and much more from there. It does take effort on both parts, but if you are determined and know what to do then the first date can be a wonderful opportunity to meet somebody great. There are however some big mistakes that you want to be sure to avoid. If you make one of these mistakes they can destroy your first date, ruin your confidence, and ultimately be an obstacle in future ­–relationships.

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There’s a good chance that you can go into the first date with nervous energy or even anxiety, and sometimes that can keep you from enjoying what may come to e. There are a variety of reasons why people blow it on the first date, but having awareness and then working through these issues is what matters. Try to learn from past mistakes and ensure that they don’t come up again, and you will be lucky in love. Far too many of us try to be somebody that we’re not or we let our nerves get the best of us, and this can lead to ongoing problems.

If you want to ensure that you don’t blow it on the first date and that you turn your luck around in love, here are the biggest mistakes to avoid on that all important first meeting.

  1.    Talking constantly about your previous relationships or your ex: Though you may have been hurt or had a horrible breakup, the first date is definitely not the time to talk about it. Even if you feel comfortable with this person, they don’t want to hear about your previous relationships or how horrible your ex was. Save that talk for your friends and focus on the present in this first date, otherwise, if you talk too much about the past it may indicate that you’re not ready to move on just yet.
  2.    Coming off as cocky or self-absorbed: Confidence can be a really great thing and can show them that there are wonderful things to get to know about you. Coming off as cocky, however, is something very different! If you are self absorbed or if you only talk about yourself, then this will serve as a huge turn off. Never be overbearing or talk too much about yourself, for they will want to end the date and never see you again.dating-uncomfortable-zones-of-men
  3.    Talking without actually taking the time to listen and get to know the other person: Along the same lines, they don’t only want to hear about you without telling you something about themselves. Yes you want to talk and share things about yourself, but allow them the same opportunity. If you hijack the conversation they will see you as overly aggressive and overbearing, neither of which are good personality traits. You can kiss that second date goodbye if you do nothing but talk on the first date!
  4. Getting drunk or taking things too far physically speaking: In the end, you have to remain in control, for if you don’t then bad things may come about. Be sure that you limit your alcohol consumption because getting drunk looks bad and means that your inhibition is down. Though a first kiss can be a great thing on the first date, if you take things too far they won’t respect you—this will end up as a one night stand rather than the first date with future possibilities and it will ultimately hurt your self-esteem in the process!
  5.    Asking invasive questions or talking about topics that are off limits on the first date: Do not ask personal questions that make the other person uncomfortable. Also be sure that you keep potentially controversial topics off the table on the first date such as religion, politics, or personal views. There will be plenty of time to get to know each other but save these topics for later on. Never make them feel uncomfortable or be invasive, for you will never get the chance to enjoy a second date. If you avoid mistakes such as these then you will be much more likely to get to that all important second date and get a chance to see where things go from there.

 

The 8 Best Ways To Secure a Second Date

The 8 Best Ways To Secure a Second Date

When you go into that first date it may feel as though your nerves truly get the best of you. Though you want to impress this person, you may feel overwhelmed by concern about how you will across and how things will go. This is a great time to take a deep breath and really let your true self-shine through. If you want to get to that second date then you have to be ready for where the night takes you, and ultimately be yourself so that they see what you are all about.

This, of course, takes confidence, but it also means that you have to be open-minded to the possibilities. Though this may not necessarily be the match that you dreamed of on paper, you never know how things can go. If you can stay positive, live in the moment, and really enjoy the time that you spend with this person on the first date then things may go better than you might think. The first date can be an excellent platform for the second date—and here are the tips to help you to win them over and secure that second date to really see where things go!

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  1.    Use the power of body language to show interest: This doesn’t mean that you are promiscuous but it just means that you embrace the power of flirting and some well placed body language to win them over. Smile at them, make eye contact, stand with your body open without arms crossed—these are the types of things that show them that you are interested without saying a word! Body language is a very powerful tool in showing this person that you are intriguing and that you are interested in them for more than just this first meeting.
  2.    Be yourself and show confidence: One of the most attractive traits is confidence, so get in touch with your own and let it shine through. This is not a time to pretend, but rather just be yourself and own what that means. When they see that you are confident about the person that you are, then they can’t help but be interested in learning more about you. There is something more to learn and your confidence shows them that you have got it going on, so they want to be a part of that.
  3.    Go in with an open mind and a positive mindset: You never know when this person that you meet could turn into something really great in your life. Don’t shoot yourself down before the date even starts, but rather go in with an open mind. Being positive makes you more attractive and when you see what possibilities may come out of this first date, you may allow yourself to get to the second date when you normally would have never considered it.
  4.    Listen as much as you talk: There should be a good back and forth type of conversation going on in this first date to get to the second one. Be sure that you share details about yourself, but also be ready and willing to listen to them too. When you can find that good balance then good things happen. Be conscious of the ability to talk as much as you listen and vice versa, for good conversation is the key to a second date!
  5.    Have fun and look at this as an opportunity: Stop worrying about what may come and just have fun on the first date. If you want a second date then you need to see this for what it is, and that’s an opportunity. Enjoy yourself, have fun, laugh a little, and see what may come. When you can just have fun it’s very attractive and makes the other person want to see you again with certainty.
  6.    Do something fun together that allows the two of you to talk: Do keep in mind that whatever you do together on that first date makes a difference if you will get to a second date or not. Try to plan something fun together like a picnic at the park or grabbing coffee that ensures that you can enjoy each other’s company. If you want to get the second date then the environment on that first date and your ability to get to know each other matters greatly.
  7.    Leave something to the imagination—a little mystery can go a long way: Though you want to be forthcoming you also want to leave something to the imagination. A little bit of mystery can help to keep them intrigued. This means that you don’t put all your cards out on the table and you leave something for them to get to know about you on future dates to come.
  8.    Focus on the present and this person before you: Stop worrying about the future and never focus on the past—just focus on the present and this person sitting before you! There can be great things to come if you just put yourself into the current situation and stop worrying about what may or may not come to be. This isn’t always easy but if you can just live in this moment and focus on what is happening in the first date, then that second date will be much more likely to come and then you can enjoy what lies ahead from there!

 

Boring Men Never Become Less Boring

My girlfriend has been dating this guy for a few months and so I hear a lot about their relationship. They have been dating and there are times when she finds him boring. Super nice guy and everything but she has been moved to tears by boredom. I’ve often asked her why she continues to stay with him if talking to a pole can at times bring about deeper conversations. Her reasoning is that she’s hoping she can spark some excitement into him making him the perfect man. I disagree. I don’t believe that a boring man can suddenly become less boring, I think he’s boring for a reason; that’s why these men always end up in the friend zone. I myself have dated the boring man so I feel like I’ve done extensive research on the subject. There are undeniable traits of a boring man, and here they are:  

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  1. They Don’t Mind Waiting

The problem with boring men is they don’t feel their time is valuable and they will prove it to you. How this works from a dating standpoint is simple. These are the guys that take forever to ask a girl out, or who will spend too much time on a woman who isn’t even interested.

  1. They Expect Something For Being Nice

These are the guys that don’t understand why a girl is not falling in love with him because he is “so nice” to her. What boring guys don’t seem to get is that everyone is nice. That doesn’t mean that it makes them immediately dateable.  A nice guy is not reason enough to date someone. There are no extra points for being nice, guys! It’s called being human.

  1. When Life Isn’t Fair They Get Upset

When the going gets tough these guys can’t handle the pressure; they will pout, whine and moan when life doesn’t go their way. Someone who is exciting and self-possessed won’t behave in this manner. They will roll up their sleeves and get the job done, no matter what life throws at them. Don’t date a guy with a victim mentality.

  1. They Are Gentle Towards Women

Boring men handle the women they are interested in with kid gloves. The sexy men will be aggressive and go after what they want while a boring guy will be overly friendly, soft and gentle so that he can show us what a harmless man he is. You know the guy in your office who everyone says would never hurt a fly? That’s the boring guy. These men are worried they will scare us off if they don’t appear unintimidating.

They exhibit behaviors such as:

  • They will always follow a joke or flirt with “didn’t mean it.”
  • They will laugh nervously and smile a lot
  • Overly chumming, hugging women or hi-fiving them, overly excited when they greet them, and letting women vent to them.
  1. They Have No Interests or Passions Of Their Own

Most sexy and exciting men have lives of their own. They are either involved in sports or going to the gym, always competing against other men to be the best. A boring and unsexy man will have a lack of passion. There are men out there that have no drive to be the best and nothing to

A man with passion is very attractive to a woman because she wants to be close to the fire that is burning inside of him. A boring man doesn’t strive for anything and is fine with the status quo which a woman can find boring especially if she is ambitious.
These are just a few of the qualities that you can look out for when jumping head first into the dating game. Keep a look out for the boring man and don’t waste your time trying to change him. Boring men will always be boring.

10 Signs That She’s Into You

10 Signs That She’s Into You

When some women are interested in men, they may be forward and upfront about their feelings. The worst that can happen is the man will reject them, but for some, the idea of being turned down is too much to bear. Instead of being open about how they feel, they drop subtle hints until a guy makes a move. The problem with this approach is that not all guys will be able to read a girl’s signals or know if her actions are saying “I’m interested in you” or “leave me alone.” In order for this to work, men need to be aware of the little things that women will do to show their interest and get their attention without being obvious.

Here are 10 signs that you can look for if you want to know if a woman is into you or not.

She laughs at you

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People love to laugh, whether they are male or female. If you have a great sense of humor, that is a huge plus. If a woman laughs at you, you are definitely scoring points, but if she makes an effort to lock eyes while she is laughing, this is a good sign.

She checks you out

It is sometimes hard for people to hide their attraction to another person. With this being the case, when a woman is into you, she will most likely check you out a few times. It could be your eyes, hair, mouth or even your muscles she is drawn to, but the point is, if she is checking you out, there is a chance she wants you.

She makes eye contact

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Eye contact can be uncomfortable for some, but when a woman is interested in you, she will not shy away from locking eye with you. Take advantage of these moments, and look into her eyes. She may be trying to establish a connection, so if you like her, just go with it.

She gets dolled up for you

There is no need for women to get dolled up everyday, and not everyone does. But, if she knows she is going to run into her crush, she will put some effort into her appearance. Depending on the circumstances, you can’t assume that she is only dressed nice because of you, but if it is a situation where the two of you are hanging out, it would be safe to make that assumption.

She confides in you

Women tend to be very private people when they are just meeting someone. It is not attractive to go spilling your guts to strangers or tell the your deepest, darkest secrets, so for the most part, they don’t reveal too much. If a woman takes the time to tell you about herself, that means she wants you to get to know her better. She’s interested in you, but in order for things to go anywhere, you need to know things about one another. Her opening up to you is the start of that. She is risking you being turned off, but in the end, if all goes well, you will be attracted to her even more.

She touches your body

Arms, hands, shoulders, knees. There are a number of places that a woman will try to touch you during conversation. Touching is a sign of affection, but men can also see this as a sign that a woman likes him. Don’t be afraid to reciprocate and touch her back. You don’t want to be creepy and touch her inappropriately, so maybe something small like touching her hand will suffice.

She sits close to you

A girl will only get so close if she is not interested in you because she may not want to give you the wrong idea. If she is into you, she will probably sit a little bit closer than any other girls. This is her attempt to mark her territory and prevent other females from approaching you.

She scans your face

There is probably one or a few things about your face that your crush finds attractive. Maybe you have eyes that she gets lost in or a set of kissable lips? Whatever it may be, she will likely be scanning your face and admiring your looks whenever you are together.

She initiates conversation

It is always a struggle when two people want to text each other, but don’t want to initiate conversation. Society has made people think that the first person to text is weaker or more sensitive, but it really means they are brave. The ice is never going to be broken if no one takes that first step, so if a girl texts or calls you first, she probably likes you at least a little. Don’t let her start the conversation every time you talk, because she may get confused about your feelings for her. Every once in awhile, be sure to step up to the plate and shoot her a text before she gets the chance to.

She wants to learn more about you

No one is going to waste their time hearing about someone else’s life unless they genuinely have an interest in the person they are learning about. This is your chance to let her know who you really are, so don’t be afraid to share stories that show her how kind, caring and sweet you can be. You want to appeal to her and the best way to do this is to let her know what you are really about.

You may expect people to be forward and open about what they’re feeling and what they want, but not everyone is comfortable going after the man or woman of their dreams. When people fail to be upfront about their feelings, they often try to convey things through small acts and gestures. Women may be hard to read, but that doesn’t mean it is impossible to do. Part of picking up their signs and signals requires men to pay close attention. If you are able to do that, then you may be able to recognize that the woman you have been pining over has actually been seeking your attention.

 

Happy Valentine’s Day! Top Bachelor and Bachelorettes in Santa Barbara

Today is national love day,  dreaded among all singletons everywhere.  What are your V-Day plans?  We recommend keeping busy, hitting up the gym, a thriller movie or catching up on your tv shows.  Billions Season 2, Episode 1 just came out,  if you haven’t watched it I highly recommend it!

The Catch got a lot of Klout thanks to our amazing ambassadors at UCSB,  CEO Shannon Ong is also an alumnus there so no doubt we have some good looking ladies and gents at the school, who are they? Here are just a few of them below!


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Location: Santa Barbara, CA
Work: South Coast Deli, Student
3 things I look for in a Guy:
    makes me laugh, great smile, I can tease them/joke around
Pet peeves: rude, ignorant or unnecessarily mean people
Favorite food: extra crunchy peanut butter, but I also put hot sauce on literally everything
Favorite band: Fleetwood Mac, Tame Impala, The Beatles, J. Cole, Chance the Rapper, Solange Knowles, Missy Elliot

Jack Flowers, Age 19

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Location: Ojai, CA
Work: Service assistant at the UCEN
3 things I look for in a girl:
   a person who thinks of themselves, someone who is interested in cool hobbies, and someone with high cheek bones
Pet peeves: tailgating
Favorite food: crab
Favorite band: Gorillaz

Kaelyn Tomkins, Age 21

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Current Residence or City: Santa Barbara, CA
Work: Starbucks
3 Things You Look for in a guy
    Sarcasm, honesty, humor
Pet peeves: stopping in the middle of crowds
Favorite Food: pot roast
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Current Residence or City: Isla Vista, Goleta
Work: CEO at PockyFix Mobile Repair, marketing intern for TheCatch
3 Things You Look for in a girl
    kindness, maturity, self discipline and hygiene
Pet peeves:false accusations can be quite annoying,  people throwing attitudes towards me, someone cries over trivial things
Favorite Food:Asian food in general, from dumplings to ramen, fried rice to sushi
Favorite Band:  listen to all types, but if had to choose Big Bang from Korea

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How to Rock Singleness during the Holidays and New Year

No doubt dating in the holidays is hard if you are single. All those holiday parties, awkward work parties, and family get-togethers.

Here are a couple tips from your friends at The Catch on how to rock during this holiday season and New Years.

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  • Be a yes wo(man).  Don’t avoid holidays parties or social functions because you are dateless.  What ends up happening if you flake out is you end up alone,  being a couch potato and pack on those calories while watching your favorite show reruns.  Sure you may get the “oh you don’t have a date?” from your annoying aunt or friend,  but there is more to gain than lose here.  For one, you can get creative on your response with excuses like – yeah I just broke up with him/her,  I’m focused on me right now and doing really well with my career or even snarky like “I’m all about casual dating.”  And there is always that chance that you may meet that him/her at the restaurant or bar you are at and you guys can bond over spiked egg nog.  No one to kiss at midnight?  There could be a handsome stranger waiting for you.
  • Be Open Minded.  We all have that perfect man or woman we want to take home for the holidays and kiss on New Years. For most of my early 20s I was focused too much on just looks and not the brain.  All I ended up with was a lower IQ and always feeling fat.  Make your resolution about finding the one that can make you laugh.  Swipe right on that guy and then actually do follow up in a convo – I know it’s hard but you can do it!
  • Reach out to Old Friends.  Don’t be the guy/girl who does those massive text messages that say something impersonal and generic like “Happy Holidays” or “Happy New Year”.  Actually take the time out to reach out individually to people whom you lost touch with,  catch up with them, and chances are they may have some new friends that may lead to a potential date.
  • Go Grocery Shopping and look damn good.  There have been countless times when I have been picked up at a grocery store.  Why? You usually are alone and usually find a lot of single people shopping as well.  In any case, the single ones are easy to spot based on their shopping cart.  If you are bold enough ask a guy in the fruit aisle “how do you know if a mango is ripe?”

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  • Do Something New –  go into your Facebook events and find something interesting that you won’t normally do and do it!  For example Morning Glory, a yoga class, Aerial Silks, hip hop.
  • Workout.  Working out releases endorphins,  and endorphins make you happy.  The more you work out the better you feel about yourself and it shows in your confidence, and confidence scores more dates.

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