What NOT To Do On Your Dating Profile

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Creating the perfect online dating profile can take some time. Along with having to craft a perfectly worded statement about who you are and what you are looking for, you have to make sure you sound interesting and spell every word correctly. People are harsh and very quick to pass someone by for the smallest things. From crooked teeth and bushy eyebrows to a perfectly trim waste and healthy, clear skin, there are a lot of different people with a lot of different features that you will run into when you are trying your hand at online dating.

Even though no one is perfect, people still like to pretend they are, which means they will skip over those who don’t meet their standards. With you knowing that people will judge you solely based on your profile pictures and what is in your “About Me” section, there is never any telling how many people will try to connect with you. This type of dating can be fun and entertaining, but having a successful run at it  and increasing your chances of finding love means taking note of the things that you just shouldn’t do on your profile.

Here a few things you should not do on your online dating profile.

Be rude

You want to appeal to other online daters. So when you create your profile, you do not want to come off rude, inconsiderate or callous. People have different thoughts and opinions on various subjects, and while yours may differ from mosts, you don’t want to say the wrong. You should also expect that people you would never give a chance to might contact you. It is true that there are creepers online who may only contact you looking for a one night stand, but it is likely that no matter what you say on your profile, someone you do not want to talk to will reach out. Telling them to leave you alone or not to message you just won’t work. Should this happen, you should handle it accordingly instead of writing something inappropriate on your profile.

Be vulgar

People create online dating profiles for various reasons. One person may be looking to find someone to settle down with, while another may be simply trying to find someone to make their friend with benefits. Regardless of what type of intimate relationship you are looking for, you do not want to be vulgar on your profile. Not everyone is okay with speaking about sex openly, so you want to be careful with what you say when you are informing people of what type of relationship you were looking for online. Mentioning that you have a foot fetish is one thing, but going into grave detail about it is another.

Lie

It is never okay to make people believe something about you that is untrue. You may not necessarily be proud of certain facts about yourself, but you do not want to create an image of yourself that can easily be disproven within seconds of you meeting someone in person. When you write about yourself on your profile, discuss the positive things about yourself, but don’t be afraid to mention your flaws either. People like when someone is aware of what makes them special, but also what makes them human. No one is perfect, so if you go on and on about how great you are on your profile, it is likely that very few people will believe you anyway.

This suggestion goes for your photos as well. People think it is okay to lie and post photos of others and say that the picture is of them when it really isn’t. If there is anything that MTV’s Catfish has taught us all it’s that sooner or later you will be found out. It may not be this year or the next, but if you find someone you really like, the truth will have to be revealed if you want to carry out a real relationship. Avoid having to explain later and only post pictures of yourself.

Posts revealing photos

If you are really online looking for love, you do not want to post photos of yourself that are too revealing. Women often make the mistake of posting photos that reveal their cleavage, stomach and other parts of their body that people probably shouldn’t see until the second or third date, if not later. If you present yourself as if you are a piece of meat, that is how other online daters are going to treat you. It is best that you post tasteful photos of yourself that will make people want to know who you are and what is going on in your brain instead of your pants.

Talk too much about yourself

It is helpful for you to talk about yourself, seeing as how it is your profile and all. However, people want to know what you are looking for in a significant other. Ideally, you will want people to read your profile, get an idea of what you are looking for and determine if they are that person before they message you. People who are in no way a good fit for you may still contact you even though you’ve clearly stated what you want, but at least you didn’t fill your profile with three pages worth of information about yourself. Tell people about you, but don’t come off as a narcissist.

Online dating may be similar to dating in person, but there are also many differences. When people read your profile, you want them to fall in love with you, not block you after reading two lines. What you tell people about yourself is important because it affects who will contact you and whether or not you find the one you have been looking for all this time. Ultimately, you are going to put what you want on your profile, but do keep in mind that there are some things that do not need to be shared or mentioned on online.

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