How to Date During Quarantine

How to Date During Quarantine

Dating has changed, that’s for sure, and everyone is getting used to the new normal in life. But as this is unchartered territory, you might want a few tips on how to date during a pandemic.

Tip #1: This is not a roadblock but an opportunity

The first thing that you need to do is that you need to understand that Covid is not a roadblock to you finding love; this is a new opportunity. It is an opportunity to either take a break from dating or change how to communicate with your dates only. If you just focus on the fear that you’re going to miss out on love or that the world will end and you’re going to die alone, then obviously, your anxiety levels will be high. But more than anything, you’re going to lose perspective on the whole situation. Just because you can’t see someone or you can’t go on a date for a couple of weeks, it doesn’t have to be a bad thing. This is an opportunity to do a self-assessment first and ask yourself, what are my reasons for dating? 

Am I ready to date? Should I even be dating at this time? 

If you can see this as an opportunity to have a little bit of self-reflection on your intentions to find love, it will give you more clarity.

Tip #2: UP the conversation

It’s time to get old school. Remember, back in the day, before we even had texting or the internet, we used just to pick up the phone and call people. People still build relationships. We have a massive communication breakdown in society hence why so many people are struggling with love. Again, this is an opportunity to get to know the person you are dating or if you have started the conversation with them and you never had a chance to meet up, then use this time to get to know them even better. It’s almost like, love is blind, right where we don’t expect to meet the person until later. 

If you could focus on just getting to know them through either phone calls or face timing, talking to them daily, you’re going to be able to strengthen that connection. It also means that you will know more about them without the pressure of “first dating” can bring, without those expectations, and without the intimacy.

This will be key during this time because many people go out and date and get intimate soon.  As the relationship experts suggest, it is essential to hold back on intimacy for some time so that you can get to know who you’re intimate with. You’re prepared for the consequences after intimacy. 

Tip #3: Send more selfies and visuals

This does not mean to send nudes to your date. Just pick up the phone and FaceTime or do Skype or send selfies to each other. It doesn’t have to be sexual. Make it a mixture of really casual shots. Do a mix of photos that represent different dates you might have had. Some selfies should be a little more on the flirty side or a bit of a sexy side. But in that context, sexy doesn’t mean showing up the skin and all. 

If you can give them the mixture of casual date photos and more formal date photos, then it’s almost like, “this is how I would see you in real life when we have casual dates.” You can still do all you’re doing instead, though, is doing it through a phone camera instead of being there in person with each other. 

Tip #4: Get creative with your dating style

If you’re in a long-distance relationship, you’re probably used to all of this. You’re probably like, “ahh, 14 days of not seeing, that’s nothing! Try 14 months” You need to be creative in a way that you can still interact with each other. There is face timing, texting, and calling. Getting creative means going on a date with each other but making it a video date. You can have your dinner in front of the computer screen or front of the phone screen.

This will be an excellent test for the person you are dating or the person you are starting to get to know. It will show how much effort they’re willing to make to be able to court you. Circumstantially, you’re both being put in a position where if you don’t make an effort and don’t get creative, then things aren’t going to go anywhere.

We have become a generation that is lazy when it comes to dating and relationships; hence why everyone just texts instead of doing phone calls or just go to each other in action. This is an opportunity to work out and make your dates fun and exciting through a video screen while getting to know each other.  

Tip #5: Think long term, don’t just react

One of the things that people tend to do when they’re put into an environment out of their control or a crisis or whether there’s a lot of fear going around, we get desperate and irrational. So we just say “yes” to anyone, or we say “yes” to the past again. 

Just because you’re in quarantine, it is not an opportunity to go and invite your ex or reconnect with your ex. Don’t go and get caught up in the circumstances without realizing that this too shall pass. People tend to react to a situation, but they don’t recognize that responding to something still has consequences. So, if all of a sudden you build something with an ex, then once we’re all let out of our houses again, you realize, “hang on a second, I don’t want to keep things happening with my ex.” You’ve then gotta fix that situation. Instead of having more damage control to deal with, just be aware of who you are talking to. 

There will be so many active people on apps as expected because we now have a lot more time to fiddle on our phones. But just because you can talk to certain guys or girls out there doesn’t mean you should. Stay focused, and accountable. Stay in your lane. Remember who you want to date, why you want to date, what type of relationship you ideally want to build. Don’t deviate from that just because you’ve now got a little more fear, or you’re being put under pressure, or you’ve had this withdrawal from dating. Not every conversation is a conversation that we should engage in. 

Tip #6: Use high-interactive dating apps

We’ve seen some massive changes in 2020, but one thing has remained the same: people are still flocking to the best dating sites to find connections. Luckily, the best dating sites and apps appear to be adapting at a rapid clip to help fill the need for human connection even when we need to distance responsibly socially. One of the best dating apps you can still use to find love even in quarantine is The Catch Game App.

 The Catch lets women pick men based on their personalities, as revealed by their answers to questions posed by the woman themselves. Unlike apps such as Bumble, Tinder, and Hinge, The Catch has figured out a way to make people look more deeply into who might be a good match. And it gamifies the dating, uh, game.

Tips on Holiday Dating and Social Events

The Holiday Season is fast approaching, Thanksgiving is just around the corner and all of the Christmas Parties will begin.While singles often dread being solo over the holidays, the truth is the holidays are one of the busiest times of the year for dating. Whether it’s due to holiday breakups or New Year’s resolutions. Christmas and February are when the most singles are online seeking a match. With this type of dating traffic, the holidays are not only perfect for gathering with your current loved ones, but also the time to seek out your future loved one

Now, we will be talking about dating during the holidays and share 8 dating tips in a classy way.

Tip #1: Present Yourself In A Classy Way

What you wear and your body language says a lot about you. Dress for the occasion that you are going to in the environment. If you’re going to Mom and Dad’s house and it’s a house party where everyone’s going to dress casual, this is not the time that you want to put on a skin type short dress body con with a plunging neckline. It just is not going to look appropriate. You’re going to stand out like an eyesore so dress for the occasion that you are going to. 

Also, body language is huge. Make sure you’re smiling, have good posture, and make eye contact with people when you are greeting them. When you’re in conversation don’t be making eye contact with your cell phone. If you want people to say yes to you, it’s all in how you project yourself. Always remember, people are making a perception of you within seconds of you walking into the environment that the party is at.

Tip #2: Stay Off Your Cell Phone

Even if other people are on their phones, it always looks more proper and more classy if you have your cell phone put away. A lot of times we will see a table full of people with cellphones everywhere but is it necessary just because everyone’s doing it doesn’t mean that you need to. Put the Cell phone away.

Tip #3: Arrive a Few Minutes Early, On Time, But Never Late

If dinner is at two o’clock, then by golly that means you’re ready for dinner at two o’clock. Your coat is off, you’ve turned in the dish that you made to pass, you’ve gone to the restroom to freshen up, and you’re ready to go at two o’clock. 

During the holidays, it’s understandable that there are some cocktail parties that start at 7:00 or 8:00 at night and they’re going to go all night long,that is when you can make an exception. But when it is a dinner engagement, that is much different and there’s a time that you should be there.

Also, if you have an RSVP waiting to turn back in, make sure you get on that. When we don’t RSVP to an event it really shows that we are irresponsible and you never want anyone to think that way about you. That is not keeping it classy during the holidays or any other time of the year.

Tip #4: Offer To Help

When you arrive, always ask the host “What can I do to help?”, “Would you like me to do this?”. If you see something that needs to be done during the party, let’s say some garbage that needs to be emptied, don’t hesitate to approach the host and ask where you can get a garbage bag. Always be that guest and it goes a long way. 

Tip #5: Bring A Hostess Gift

That is always such a nice gesture. Don’t complicate it, it is not that hard. Just keep it simple. 

A lot of times when we go to a party we do know a little bit about the host and hostess, so if you know they like wine, a bottle of wine is a great gift. You could get a tin of cookies. Flowers are great as well. 

What you have to be cautious of is you never want to take a hostess gift that is going to put the hostess in a position where they have to do something with it. So you don’t want to walk in with a bouquet of flowers that they now have to go find a vase and cut the stems. Anything that you take should be easy for the hostess to set to the side and look at it later after the party is over.

Tip #6: Speak ill Of No One

Just don’t do it. And if someone else is, find something else to do with your time. The other thing, don’t speak negative about anything. It’s just not the time and no one wants to hear it. If you are giving off negative energy, that’s exactly what you are going to get back. Again, how do you want to project yourself? Do you want people to say yes to you? Or you want people to kind of work their way away from you? Don’t give off that negative complaining behaviour and attitude. There’s just no time for it. 

Tip #7: Do Not Be A High Maintenance Dining Guest

We have a lot of people with food sensitivities, you didn’t choose that. We understand for those of us don’t have sensitivities but there’s a lot that people can do. When we say about high- maintenance dining, we’re not saying that if you have food sensitivities, you’re high maintenance. I think it’s important that if you have some severe allergies to certain foods, if you have not communicated that to the hostess, do it ahead of time or bring some food that you could eat if there’s something that you can’t. 

The high maintenance part is when we draw attention to ourselves. So there’s nothing wrong with not wanting to eat certain things. There’s nothing wrong with being choosy about your food. It’s what you do with it. There are some people that just draw so much attention to themselves. In a restaurant, they will hold the wait staff up forever because they’re modifying this, they’re modifying that, they’re doing this, they’re doing that. Again, there’s picky eating, and there’s food sensitivities.

Tip #8: Check Your Emotions and Manage Them

Don’t have a bad attitude. If you and your spouse got into a little disagreement en route to Thanksgiving or to a Christmas Party, leave it in the car, no one wants to know about it. We all have bad days, we all have bad moods, we offer to get things and to turn around, and maybe that sets you off. Just accept these things do happen, put on a smiling face, have a good time.