How to Date During Quarantine
Dating has changed, that’s for sure, and everyone is getting used to the new normal in life. But as this is unchartered territory, you might want a few tips on how to date during a pandemic.
Tip #1: This is not a roadblock but an opportunity
The first thing that you need to do is that you need to understand that Covid is not a roadblock to you finding love; this is a new opportunity. It is an opportunity to either take a break from dating or change how to communicate with your dates only. If you just focus on the fear that you’re going to miss out on love or that the world will end and you’re going to die alone, then obviously, your anxiety levels will be high. But more than anything, you’re going to lose perspective on the whole situation. Just because you can’t see someone or you can’t go on a date for a couple of weeks, it doesn’t have to be a bad thing. This is an opportunity to do a self-assessment first and ask yourself, what are my reasons for dating?
Am I ready to date? Should I even be dating at this time?
If you can see this as an opportunity to have a little bit of self-reflection on your intentions to find love, it will give you more clarity.
Tip #2: UP the conversation
It’s time to get old school. Remember, back in the day, before we even had texting or the internet, we used just to pick up the phone and call people. People still build relationships. We have a massive communication breakdown in society hence why so many people are struggling with love. Again, this is an opportunity to get to know the person you are dating or if you have started the conversation with them and you never had a chance to meet up, then use this time to get to know them even better. It’s almost like, love is blind, right where we don’t expect to meet the person until later.
If you could focus on just getting to know them through either phone calls or face timing, talking to them daily, you’re going to be able to strengthen that connection. It also means that you will know more about them without the pressure of “first dating” can bring, without those expectations, and without the intimacy.
This will be key during this time because many people go out and date and get intimate soon. As the relationship experts suggest, it is essential to hold back on intimacy for some time so that you can get to know who you’re intimate with. You’re prepared for the consequences after intimacy.
Tip #3: Send more selfies and visuals
This does not mean to send nudes to your date. Just pick up the phone and FaceTime or do Skype or send selfies to each other. It doesn’t have to be sexual. Make it a mixture of really casual shots. Do a mix of photos that represent different dates you might have had. Some selfies should be a little more on the flirty side or a bit of a sexy side. But in that context, sexy doesn’t mean showing up the skin and all.
If you can give them the mixture of casual date photos and more formal date photos, then it’s almost like, “this is how I would see you in real life when we have casual dates.” You can still do all you’re doing instead, though, is doing it through a phone camera instead of being there in person with each other.
Tip #4: Get creative with your dating style
If you’re in a long-distance relationship, you’re probably used to all of this. You’re probably like, “ahh, 14 days of not seeing, that’s nothing! Try 14 months” You need to be creative in a way that you can still interact with each other. There is face timing, texting, and calling. Getting creative means going on a date with each other but making it a video date. You can have your dinner in front of the computer screen or front of the phone screen.
This will be an excellent test for the person you are dating or the person you are starting to get to know. It will show how much effort they’re willing to make to be able to court you. Circumstantially, you’re both being put in a position where if you don’t make an effort and don’t get creative, then things aren’t going to go anywhere.
We have become a generation that is lazy when it comes to dating and relationships; hence why everyone just texts instead of doing phone calls or just go to each other in action. This is an opportunity to work out and make your dates fun and exciting through a video screen while getting to know each other.
Tip #5: Think long term, don’t just react
One of the things that people tend to do when they’re put into an environment out of their control or a crisis or whether there’s a lot of fear going around, we get desperate and irrational. So we just say “yes” to anyone, or we say “yes” to the past again.
Just because you’re in quarantine, it is not an opportunity to go and invite your ex or reconnect with your ex. Don’t go and get caught up in the circumstances without realizing that this too shall pass. People tend to react to a situation, but they don’t recognize that responding to something still has consequences. So, if all of a sudden you build something with an ex, then once we’re all let out of our houses again, you realize, “hang on a second, I don’t want to keep things happening with my ex.” You’ve then gotta fix that situation. Instead of having more damage control to deal with, just be aware of who you are talking to.
There will be so many active people on apps as expected because we now have a lot more time to fiddle on our phones. But just because you can talk to certain guys or girls out there doesn’t mean you should. Stay focused, and accountable. Stay in your lane. Remember who you want to date, why you want to date, what type of relationship you ideally want to build. Don’t deviate from that just because you’ve now got a little more fear, or you’re being put under pressure, or you’ve had this withdrawal from dating. Not every conversation is a conversation that we should engage in.
Tip #6: Use high-interactive dating apps
We’ve seen some massive changes in 2020, but one thing has remained the same: people are still flocking to the best dating sites to find connections. Luckily, the best dating sites and apps appear to be adapting at a rapid clip to help fill the need for human connection even when we need to distance responsibly socially. One of the best dating apps you can still use to find love even in quarantine is The Catch Game App.
The Catch lets women pick men based on their personalities, as revealed by their answers to questions posed by the woman themselves. Unlike apps such as Bumble, Tinder, and Hinge, The Catch has figured out a way to make people look more deeply into who might be a good match. And it gamifies the dating, uh, game.