7 Things Men Love to See in a Women’s Profile

7 Things Men Love To See in Women’s Profile

One of the leading App Developer recently surveyed one of their major products online, and they found the number one thing that men are looking for in women’s dating profiles. 

A caring nature was essential; a sense of humor was important; positivity was important as well. But the one thing they found that stood out that men are looking for is fun.

You might want to check these seven tips on making your profile stand out to men and making you sound super, super fun.

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Tip #1: Have a Great Opening Line

First impressions matter a lot in real life, and they matter just as much online. So you want to start your profile off with a bang.

“My life is like a Broadway spectacular. It’s exciting. It slows down at times, but it’s always good fun.”

“Hanging out with me is like a good game of footie, unpredictable, can get messy, but always a great time.”

“My personality is like a good mixed tape – spontaneous, sometimes over-energetic, but you still can’t help but smile.”

When you start your profile with a killer opening line, you already give the impression of how much fun you’re going to be.

Tip #2: Show You’re Down To Earth With Examples!

Everyone likes to say they’re down to earth, and down to earth is a great thing to have because we know that people who are down to earth and fun to hang out with, but everyone says they’re down to earth. It’s not believable if you just say you want to show that you’re down to earth by giving examples, and one of the best ways to do this is to make playful fun of yourself.

“My cooking abilities lack some diversity, but if a bad bowl of finely cut apples is your thing, this girl has you covered.”

“I’m an architecture nerd at heart and dance a little… a lot when I see Latvian art deco of the twenties.”

“I love arcade games, but unfortunately suck at them. So if you let me win without me knowing, I’ll know you’re a special kind of man.”

You can also dress up something you have that you might think is boring and present it in a fun way.

“I’m an accountant by profession, but I promise I’m still fun, though it is Design that has my heart.”

Tip #3: Add “Contrast Statements”

This is where you take something that’s kind of weird about you, that your friends think is very strange about you, and you put it into one sentence by contrasting the two aspects of your personality that don’t make sense together.

“I love books, but I seem to have an adversity to reading.”

“I love flying but hate heights.”

“I’ve got no fear of public speaking, but asking the air hostess for a second biscuit on a plane scares the bejeezus out of me.”

Tip# 4: Don’t Say, What You Don’t Want

It’s tempting online if you’ve had some bad experiences to make statements like these…

“Don’t bother messaging if you’re only after one thing.”

“If you’re less than six feet tall, don’t waste both of our time.”

“Tired of guys who can’t call a woman and don’t know how to be a gentleman.”

The problem is, imagine if a guy made statements like these…

“Don’t bother messaging me If you are not at least a D-cup.”

“Please be able to hold a conversation. Cannot deal with any more bimbos.”

“Tired of women who think the man has to do everything.”

It doesn’t exactly make you want to message him, does it? Make sure you keep out of your profile anything that says what you don’t want. It does not make you seem fun to hang out with.

Tip #5: Add Some Fun Goals

Remember, men want to become part of your exciting life. If you can make your life, life with you seems more exciting for him than his single life; he will want to commit like that. Put some fun goals into your profile that you’re excited for and show how passionate you are for them.

“Currently planning a trip to Morton Island, but in the longer term, a trip to Milan in Italy to explore my heritage is a dream I can’t wait to make a reality.”

“Punked to be preparing for my next big rowing adventure. I can’t wait to be back on the banks of the Yarra. Being free on the water is my idea of heaven.”

“I’m looking forward to competing in the Australian titles in August, but not before I conquer my fear of sharks at the underwater world this June.”

Tip #6: Show Gratefulness Rather Than Expectations

Always make sure to do a small section at the end’s profile, 25 to 30% of your profile on what you’re looking for in a guy. But you want to make sure you phrase it as you will be grateful if you find it, not you’re expecting it. Imagine the difference if you write, “I’ll only date men who love what they do” versus “There’s nothing I find more attractive than passion.” In one, you’re showing, you expect it. In another, you’re showing that you’re grateful for it. Take these other examples.

“You don’t have to be a chiseled model, but I do value health and would love to meet someone who does too.”

“Honesty and kindness are way sexier to me than a good job title.”

“Love a man who knows what he wants and has a plan to get there.”

Both of those shows that you’re appreciating and grateful for those traits when you find them rather than saying you’re expecting them.

Tip #7: Finish, Strong!

Just as you want to start strong and make a great first impression, you want to finish strong as well. Say something that makes you sound like a lot of fun to hang out with, and then give a call to action. Tell the guy to message you or invite him to take action and contact you.

“Massive brownie points if you know more Simpsons quotes than me if you think you have a chance of outwitting me and willing to have my beautiful dog sniff you all over, I’d love to hear from you.”

“You’ll get a date if you can beat me at a game of Yahtzee. If you’re up for some serious five dice gambling or just want to eat burritos as much as me, make sure your message.”

“Bonus points if you’ll come to a burlesque show with me; I’ve never been.”

“If you wouldn’t mind an adventure around L. A and are happy to lose at arcade games to me; I’d love to hear from you.”

Those are the seven things you can do to make your profile a ton of fun. Remember, read through your face at the end, and if you can read it and say, “I sound like so much fun to hang out with,” then you are doing a great job. Make sure you subscribe as well. 

How to Date During Quarantine

How to Date During Quarantine

Dating has changed, that’s for sure, and everyone is getting used to the new normal in life. But as this is unchartered territory, you might want a few tips on how to date during a pandemic.

Tip #1: This is not a roadblock but an opportunity

The first thing that you need to do is that you need to understand that Covid is not a roadblock to you finding love; this is a new opportunity. It is an opportunity to either take a break from dating or change how to communicate with your dates only. If you just focus on the fear that you’re going to miss out on love or that the world will end and you’re going to die alone, then obviously, your anxiety levels will be high. But more than anything, you’re going to lose perspective on the whole situation. Just because you can’t see someone or you can’t go on a date for a couple of weeks, it doesn’t have to be a bad thing. This is an opportunity to do a self-assessment first and ask yourself, what are my reasons for dating? 

Am I ready to date? Should I even be dating at this time? 

If you can see this as an opportunity to have a little bit of self-reflection on your intentions to find love, it will give you more clarity.

Tip #2: UP the conversation

It’s time to get old school. Remember, back in the day, before we even had texting or the internet, we used just to pick up the phone and call people. People still build relationships. We have a massive communication breakdown in society hence why so many people are struggling with love. Again, this is an opportunity to get to know the person you are dating or if you have started the conversation with them and you never had a chance to meet up, then use this time to get to know them even better. It’s almost like, love is blind, right where we don’t expect to meet the person until later. 

If you could focus on just getting to know them through either phone calls or face timing, talking to them daily, you’re going to be able to strengthen that connection. It also means that you will know more about them without the pressure of “first dating” can bring, without those expectations, and without the intimacy.

This will be key during this time because many people go out and date and get intimate soon.  As the relationship experts suggest, it is essential to hold back on intimacy for some time so that you can get to know who you’re intimate with. You’re prepared for the consequences after intimacy. 

Tip #3: Send more selfies and visuals

This does not mean to send nudes to your date. Just pick up the phone and FaceTime or do Skype or send selfies to each other. It doesn’t have to be sexual. Make it a mixture of really casual shots. Do a mix of photos that represent different dates you might have had. Some selfies should be a little more on the flirty side or a bit of a sexy side. But in that context, sexy doesn’t mean showing up the skin and all. 

If you can give them the mixture of casual date photos and more formal date photos, then it’s almost like, “this is how I would see you in real life when we have casual dates.” You can still do all you’re doing instead, though, is doing it through a phone camera instead of being there in person with each other. 

Tip #4: Get creative with your dating style

If you’re in a long-distance relationship, you’re probably used to all of this. You’re probably like, “ahh, 14 days of not seeing, that’s nothing! Try 14 months” You need to be creative in a way that you can still interact with each other. There is face timing, texting, and calling. Getting creative means going on a date with each other but making it a video date. You can have your dinner in front of the computer screen or front of the phone screen.

This will be an excellent test for the person you are dating or the person you are starting to get to know. It will show how much effort they’re willing to make to be able to court you. Circumstantially, you’re both being put in a position where if you don’t make an effort and don’t get creative, then things aren’t going to go anywhere.

We have become a generation that is lazy when it comes to dating and relationships; hence why everyone just texts instead of doing phone calls or just go to each other in action. This is an opportunity to work out and make your dates fun and exciting through a video screen while getting to know each other.  

Tip #5: Think long term, don’t just react

One of the things that people tend to do when they’re put into an environment out of their control or a crisis or whether there’s a lot of fear going around, we get desperate and irrational. So we just say “yes” to anyone, or we say “yes” to the past again. 

Just because you’re in quarantine, it is not an opportunity to go and invite your ex or reconnect with your ex. Don’t go and get caught up in the circumstances without realizing that this too shall pass. People tend to react to a situation, but they don’t recognize that responding to something still has consequences. So, if all of a sudden you build something with an ex, then once we’re all let out of our houses again, you realize, “hang on a second, I don’t want to keep things happening with my ex.” You’ve then gotta fix that situation. Instead of having more damage control to deal with, just be aware of who you are talking to. 

There will be so many active people on apps as expected because we now have a lot more time to fiddle on our phones. But just because you can talk to certain guys or girls out there doesn’t mean you should. Stay focused, and accountable. Stay in your lane. Remember who you want to date, why you want to date, what type of relationship you ideally want to build. Don’t deviate from that just because you’ve now got a little more fear, or you’re being put under pressure, or you’ve had this withdrawal from dating. Not every conversation is a conversation that we should engage in. 

Tip #6: Use high-interactive dating apps

We’ve seen some massive changes in 2020, but one thing has remained the same: people are still flocking to the best dating sites to find connections. Luckily, the best dating sites and apps appear to be adapting at a rapid clip to help fill the need for human connection even when we need to distance responsibly socially. One of the best dating apps you can still use to find love even in quarantine is The Catch Game App.

 The Catch lets women pick men based on their personalities, as revealed by their answers to questions posed by the woman themselves. Unlike apps such as Bumble, Tinder, and Hinge, The Catch has figured out a way to make people look more deeply into who might be a good match. And it gamifies the dating, uh, game.

Tips on Holiday Dating and Social Events

The Holiday Season is fast approaching, Thanksgiving is just around the corner and all of the Christmas Parties will begin.While singles often dread being solo over the holidays, the truth is the holidays are one of the busiest times of the year for dating. Whether it’s due to holiday breakups or New Year’s resolutions. Christmas and February are when the most singles are online seeking a match. With this type of dating traffic, the holidays are not only perfect for gathering with your current loved ones, but also the time to seek out your future loved one

Now, we will be talking about dating during the holidays and share 8 dating tips in a classy way.

Tip #1: Present Yourself In A Classy Way

What you wear and your body language says a lot about you. Dress for the occasion that you are going to in the environment. If you’re going to Mom and Dad’s house and it’s a house party where everyone’s going to dress casual, this is not the time that you want to put on a skin type short dress body con with a plunging neckline. It just is not going to look appropriate. You’re going to stand out like an eyesore so dress for the occasion that you are going to. 

Also, body language is huge. Make sure you’re smiling, have good posture, and make eye contact with people when you are greeting them. When you’re in conversation don’t be making eye contact with your cell phone. If you want people to say yes to you, it’s all in how you project yourself. Always remember, people are making a perception of you within seconds of you walking into the environment that the party is at.

Tip #2: Stay Off Your Cell Phone

Even if other people are on their phones, it always looks more proper and more classy if you have your cell phone put away. A lot of times we will see a table full of people with cellphones everywhere but is it necessary just because everyone’s doing it doesn’t mean that you need to. Put the Cell phone away.

Tip #3: Arrive a Few Minutes Early, On Time, But Never Late

If dinner is at two o’clock, then by golly that means you’re ready for dinner at two o’clock. Your coat is off, you’ve turned in the dish that you made to pass, you’ve gone to the restroom to freshen up, and you’re ready to go at two o’clock. 

During the holidays, it’s understandable that there are some cocktail parties that start at 7:00 or 8:00 at night and they’re going to go all night long,that is when you can make an exception. But when it is a dinner engagement, that is much different and there’s a time that you should be there.

Also, if you have an RSVP waiting to turn back in, make sure you get on that. When we don’t RSVP to an event it really shows that we are irresponsible and you never want anyone to think that way about you. That is not keeping it classy during the holidays or any other time of the year.

Tip #4: Offer To Help

When you arrive, always ask the host “What can I do to help?”, “Would you like me to do this?”. If you see something that needs to be done during the party, let’s say some garbage that needs to be emptied, don’t hesitate to approach the host and ask where you can get a garbage bag. Always be that guest and it goes a long way. 

Tip #5: Bring A Hostess Gift

That is always such a nice gesture. Don’t complicate it, it is not that hard. Just keep it simple. 

A lot of times when we go to a party we do know a little bit about the host and hostess, so if you know they like wine, a bottle of wine is a great gift. You could get a tin of cookies. Flowers are great as well. 

What you have to be cautious of is you never want to take a hostess gift that is going to put the hostess in a position where they have to do something with it. So you don’t want to walk in with a bouquet of flowers that they now have to go find a vase and cut the stems. Anything that you take should be easy for the hostess to set to the side and look at it later after the party is over.

Tip #6: Speak ill Of No One

Just don’t do it. And if someone else is, find something else to do with your time. The other thing, don’t speak negative about anything. It’s just not the time and no one wants to hear it. If you are giving off negative energy, that’s exactly what you are going to get back. Again, how do you want to project yourself? Do you want people to say yes to you? Or you want people to kind of work their way away from you? Don’t give off that negative complaining behaviour and attitude. There’s just no time for it. 

Tip #7: Do Not Be A High Maintenance Dining Guest

We have a lot of people with food sensitivities, you didn’t choose that. We understand for those of us don’t have sensitivities but there’s a lot that people can do. When we say about high- maintenance dining, we’re not saying that if you have food sensitivities, you’re high maintenance. I think it’s important that if you have some severe allergies to certain foods, if you have not communicated that to the hostess, do it ahead of time or bring some food that you could eat if there’s something that you can’t. 

The high maintenance part is when we draw attention to ourselves. So there’s nothing wrong with not wanting to eat certain things. There’s nothing wrong with being choosy about your food. It’s what you do with it. There are some people that just draw so much attention to themselves. In a restaurant, they will hold the wait staff up forever because they’re modifying this, they’re modifying that, they’re doing this, they’re doing that. Again, there’s picky eating, and there’s food sensitivities.

Tip #8: Check Your Emotions and Manage Them

Don’t have a bad attitude. If you and your spouse got into a little disagreement en route to Thanksgiving or to a Christmas Party, leave it in the car, no one wants to know about it. We all have bad days, we all have bad moods, we offer to get things and to turn around, and maybe that sets you off. Just accept these things do happen, put on a smiling face, have a good time.

Am I Too Picky?

Am I too picky? Im sure you have asked yourself that question, one too many times! Seeing love all around you, the holidays are quickly approaching, engagements seeming to be everywhere…why am I single? Am I really that picky? Is a man with a full head of hair and teeth too much to ask for?!

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On a serious note, no, you are not too picky. In fact, I can’t stand that question. It is 100% ok to have preferences, standards, and to set the bar high. We are talking about a life partner, right? Having standards that are realistic is what matters. If you have to have a supermodel that has perfectly white teeth, a shredded body, and millions in the bank, then maybe you need to reevaluate.

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You are not perfect, therefore, you can’t expect perfection. I always recommend, choose two physical characteristics that really stand out to you. If you like a tall man, focus on height and one more quality. Choose 5 non negotiable inner qualities that you want in a partner. Focus on these traits. Embody these traits! If you want someone who is kind, generous, loving, active.. you need to be all of the things too! Focus on becoming the best version of yourself.

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Knowing what you want is so important, while staying open to possibilities. Maybe your guy is 5’11 instead of 6 feet but hilarious and has the best smile. You can live with that, right?  So, stay open, have fun in the process, and love will soon be tapping you on the shoulder.

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Approaching Someone in Real Life

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The thought of meeting someone in real life has become such a rarity due to technology taking over! Everyone is so consumed by their smart phone that we all forget what it is like to actually approach someone. Gasp! Saying hello has become so hard! It doesn’t have to be. We live in a big world with single people everywhere! Follow these tips and the cute guy or girl you see at Starbucks, may just be your next love.

 

  • Smile and Make Eye Contact

Man or woman- give a sweet smile and hold eye contact for 5 seconds. Seems like forever but it gives the signal that you are approachable and interested!

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  • Walk up and introduce yourself.

Seems simple enough! You can start by saying, “ Excuse me..” No one really remembers how you started the conversation anyway

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  • Be confident

Show confidence and avoid hesitation. Everyone responds to confidence and security. There is nothing more attractive then a person who knows who they are and is proud of it

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  • Be Bold

Ask them out! Get the digits. Go for it! The time is now to take a chance. Big risk, Big reward

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Follow these tips when you are out and about. Real life encounters open an entire dating pool that is untouched. You would be surprised how many awesome people you can meet

Reasons For No Second Date

Dating today definitely has its challenges. With so many options, many men and women experience the one and done date time and time again. It can be difficult to land that second date and make an incredible impression! Many of you have experienced an incredible date where you felt it was amazing, filled with chemistry….and then crickets. No call. No text. Not a word. There are very possible reasons why this happens. You spend hours analyzing why they didn’t contact you. Below, are the top reasons why a second date may not happen.

  • Not being real and coming across fake

Everyone wants to be on their best behavior on a first date, but there is huge difference from being real and authentic to having to be perfect and amazing at everything. People appreciate flaws, being down to earth, and most importantly, just being yourself

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  • Being Too Real

Everyone appreciates realness and honesty, however, some people can over do it. Airing your dirty laundry, skeletons in your closet, and sharing way too much all at once, is not well received. It is too much for one to take in. Keeping it light and fun is key.

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  • Only Talking About Yourself

When you can’t stop talking about yourself and make yourself the center of all conversation, your date loses interest. You may find them with a blank stare not even paying attention to what you are saying. Keep the conversation going back and forth. Ask questions. Be engaged with each other.

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  • Poor Hygiene

You don’t have to be perfect and dressed to the nines. However, not representing yourself in the best light, has its consequences. We all notice if a man or woman comes to a date looking sloppy, wearing a dirty shirt, messy hair, and not smelling up to par. When you ate a garlic tuna sandwich for lunch as one can guess, not a good look. Point made.

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  • Awful Conversation Topics

When you go on and on about your ex. Your date doesn’t want to hear it. Not only is it uncomfortable, we don’t care. Sorry. We want to know you, not your past relationship. Talking about politics is a recipe for disaster. Stay away from topics that will possibly cause an argument. You want fun, light, and happy conversation. The date should be fun, after all.

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Follow these tips and you will be well on your way to finding love and experiencing more and more quality dates.

Online Dating Profile Tips

Online dating can be a challenge in itself. Constantly swiping and scrolling through thousands of profiles. You want to stand out and be noticed. You want to be different than all the rest. Lets get real. No one is swiping right for a blurry pic, a shirtless mirror selfie, or a frat boy slamming a beer. Attractive? I think not. The tips below will have you shine like a diamond, attracting high quality matches, that could just be your catch.

 

  • Get Professional Pictures

Investing in some creative and professional shots will do wonders for you! They look amazing, are eye catching, and will get you noticed. Just think, a stellar photo or some circa 1999 photo that you randomly found buried in your facebook. Yea, point made.

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  • Clear, flattering photos where you are wearing a smile!

Smile!! Big, big smile!! Everyone is attracted to happiness, carefreeness, and a beautiful light energy. Nothing conveys this more than a beautiful smile. Don’t post pictures of an angry face or duck lips. So not a good look.

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  • Show your personality

Display yourself doing something you love! Whether it is hiking, the beach, a picnic, a sport, etc; this is eye catching and gives an idea of what you are like!

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  • Full body and face shots

Always include 2 full body pictures and two solo pictures of yourself. Show yourself off! Choose flattering angles and lighting to really let yourself shine.

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Follow these simple tips and you will be well on your way to online dating success and having more matches than you know what to do with!

Best Dating Tips

Best dating tips!

Now is the best time for love! With 50% of the population being single, your chances for love are in your favor. Dating in general can be scary for some. Putting yourself out there, fearing rejection, and some having to go on countless dates. Dating doesn’t have to be a dreadful experience! It can be fun, liberating, and successful. With the right attitude and some minor adjustments, Love is much closer than you think. Below are some tips to have you have the best first date and improve your luck!

 

 

  • Be confident and get your mind right. You are worthy

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  • Be Yourself. Getting out of your head and being authentic is key

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  • Smile and be happy! No one likes a negative Nelly
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  • Laugh and have fun. Don’t take things so seriously. There is no fun in that.

 

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  • Choose a great date location. A fun lively vibe is a great choice.

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  • Dress to impress. Show up in something flattering, comfortable, and that really shows who you are

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  • Stay away from unpleasant topics. Enough said.

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  • Ask questions and lean in. Be curious and open

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  • Stay tuned for future posts on more tips and advice 💗

 

 

The 5 Worst First Date Mistakes

The 5 Worst First Date Mistakes

The first date can be a wonderful thing if you put your mind to it. If you go in with the right attitude it may very well lead to a second date and much more from there. It does take effort on both parts, but if you are determined and know what to do then the first date can be a wonderful opportunity to meet somebody great. There are however some big mistakes that you want to be sure to avoid. If you make one of these mistakes they can destroy your first date, ruin your confidence, and ultimately be an obstacle in future ­–relationships.

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There’s a good chance that you can go into the first date with nervous energy or even anxiety, and sometimes that can keep you from enjoying what may come to e. There are a variety of reasons why people blow it on the first date, but having awareness and then working through these issues is what matters. Try to learn from past mistakes and ensure that they don’t come up again, and you will be lucky in love. Far too many of us try to be somebody that we’re not or we let our nerves get the best of us, and this can lead to ongoing problems.

If you want to ensure that you don’t blow it on the first date and that you turn your luck around in love, here are the biggest mistakes to avoid on that all important first meeting.

  1.    Talking constantly about your previous relationships or your ex: Though you may have been hurt or had a horrible breakup, the first date is definitely not the time to talk about it. Even if you feel comfortable with this person, they don’t want to hear about your previous relationships or how horrible your ex was. Save that talk for your friends and focus on the present in this first date, otherwise, if you talk too much about the past it may indicate that you’re not ready to move on just yet.
  2.    Coming off as cocky or self-absorbed: Confidence can be a really great thing and can show them that there are wonderful things to get to know about you. Coming off as cocky, however, is something very different! If you are self absorbed or if you only talk about yourself, then this will serve as a huge turn off. Never be overbearing or talk too much about yourself, for they will want to end the date and never see you again.dating-uncomfortable-zones-of-men
  3.    Talking without actually taking the time to listen and get to know the other person: Along the same lines, they don’t only want to hear about you without telling you something about themselves. Yes you want to talk and share things about yourself, but allow them the same opportunity. If you hijack the conversation they will see you as overly aggressive and overbearing, neither of which are good personality traits. You can kiss that second date goodbye if you do nothing but talk on the first date!
  4. Getting drunk or taking things too far physically speaking: In the end, you have to remain in control, for if you don’t then bad things may come about. Be sure that you limit your alcohol consumption because getting drunk looks bad and means that your inhibition is down. Though a first kiss can be a great thing on the first date, if you take things too far they won’t respect you—this will end up as a one night stand rather than the first date with future possibilities and it will ultimately hurt your self-esteem in the process!
  5.    Asking invasive questions or talking about topics that are off limits on the first date: Do not ask personal questions that make the other person uncomfortable. Also be sure that you keep potentially controversial topics off the table on the first date such as religion, politics, or personal views. There will be plenty of time to get to know each other but save these topics for later on. Never make them feel uncomfortable or be invasive, for you will never get the chance to enjoy a second date. If you avoid mistakes such as these then you will be much more likely to get to that all important second date and get a chance to see where things go from there.

 

The 8 Best Ways To Secure a Second Date

The 8 Best Ways To Secure a Second Date

When you go into that first date it may feel as though your nerves truly get the best of you. Though you want to impress this person, you may feel overwhelmed by concern about how you will across and how things will go. This is a great time to take a deep breath and really let your true self-shine through. If you want to get to that second date then you have to be ready for where the night takes you, and ultimately be yourself so that they see what you are all about.

This, of course, takes confidence, but it also means that you have to be open-minded to the possibilities. Though this may not necessarily be the match that you dreamed of on paper, you never know how things can go. If you can stay positive, live in the moment, and really enjoy the time that you spend with this person on the first date then things may go better than you might think. The first date can be an excellent platform for the second date—and here are the tips to help you to win them over and secure that second date to really see where things go!

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  1.    Use the power of body language to show interest: This doesn’t mean that you are promiscuous but it just means that you embrace the power of flirting and some well placed body language to win them over. Smile at them, make eye contact, stand with your body open without arms crossed—these are the types of things that show them that you are interested without saying a word! Body language is a very powerful tool in showing this person that you are intriguing and that you are interested in them for more than just this first meeting.
  2.    Be yourself and show confidence: One of the most attractive traits is confidence, so get in touch with your own and let it shine through. This is not a time to pretend, but rather just be yourself and own what that means. When they see that you are confident about the person that you are, then they can’t help but be interested in learning more about you. There is something more to learn and your confidence shows them that you have got it going on, so they want to be a part of that.
  3.    Go in with an open mind and a positive mindset: You never know when this person that you meet could turn into something really great in your life. Don’t shoot yourself down before the date even starts, but rather go in with an open mind. Being positive makes you more attractive and when you see what possibilities may come out of this first date, you may allow yourself to get to the second date when you normally would have never considered it.
  4.    Listen as much as you talk: There should be a good back and forth type of conversation going on in this first date to get to the second one. Be sure that you share details about yourself, but also be ready and willing to listen to them too. When you can find that good balance then good things happen. Be conscious of the ability to talk as much as you listen and vice versa, for good conversation is the key to a second date!
  5.    Have fun and look at this as an opportunity: Stop worrying about what may come and just have fun on the first date. If you want a second date then you need to see this for what it is, and that’s an opportunity. Enjoy yourself, have fun, laugh a little, and see what may come. When you can just have fun it’s very attractive and makes the other person want to see you again with certainty.
  6.    Do something fun together that allows the two of you to talk: Do keep in mind that whatever you do together on that first date makes a difference if you will get to a second date or not. Try to plan something fun together like a picnic at the park or grabbing coffee that ensures that you can enjoy each other’s company. If you want to get the second date then the environment on that first date and your ability to get to know each other matters greatly.
  7.    Leave something to the imagination—a little mystery can go a long way: Though you want to be forthcoming you also want to leave something to the imagination. A little bit of mystery can help to keep them intrigued. This means that you don’t put all your cards out on the table and you leave something for them to get to know about you on future dates to come.
  8.    Focus on the present and this person before you: Stop worrying about the future and never focus on the past—just focus on the present and this person sitting before you! There can be great things to come if you just put yourself into the current situation and stop worrying about what may or may not come to be. This isn’t always easy but if you can just live in this moment and focus on what is happening in the first date, then that second date will be much more likely to come and then you can enjoy what lies ahead from there!