Boring Men Never Become Less Boring

My girlfriend has been dating this guy for a few months and so I hear a lot about their relationship. They have been dating and there are times when she finds him boring. Super nice guy and everything but she has been moved to tears by boredom. I’ve often asked her why she continues to stay with him if talking to a pole can at times bring about deeper conversations. Her reasoning is that she’s hoping she can spark some excitement into him making him the perfect man. I disagree. I don’t believe that a boring man can suddenly become less boring, I think he’s boring for a reason; that’s why these men always end up in the friend zone. I myself have dated the boring man so I feel like I’ve done extensive research on the subject. There are undeniable traits of a boring man, and here they are:  

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  1. They Don’t Mind Waiting

The problem with boring men is they don’t feel their time is valuable and they will prove it to you. How this works from a dating standpoint is simple. These are the guys that take forever to ask a girl out, or who will spend too much time on a woman who isn’t even interested.

  1. They Expect Something For Being Nice

These are the guys that don’t understand why a girl is not falling in love with him because he is “so nice” to her. What boring guys don’t seem to get is that everyone is nice. That doesn’t mean that it makes them immediately dateable.  A nice guy is not reason enough to date someone. There are no extra points for being nice, guys! It’s called being human.

  1. When Life Isn’t Fair They Get Upset

When the going gets tough these guys can’t handle the pressure; they will pout, whine and moan when life doesn’t go their way. Someone who is exciting and self-possessed won’t behave in this manner. They will roll up their sleeves and get the job done, no matter what life throws at them. Don’t date a guy with a victim mentality.

  1. They Are Gentle Towards Women

Boring men handle the women they are interested in with kid gloves. The sexy men will be aggressive and go after what they want while a boring guy will be overly friendly, soft and gentle so that he can show us what a harmless man he is. You know the guy in your office who everyone says would never hurt a fly? That’s the boring guy. These men are worried they will scare us off if they don’t appear unintimidating.

They exhibit behaviors such as:

  • They will always follow a joke or flirt with “didn’t mean it.”
  • They will laugh nervously and smile a lot
  • Overly chumming, hugging women or hi-fiving them, overly excited when they greet them, and letting women vent to them.
  1. They Have No Interests or Passions Of Their Own

Most sexy and exciting men have lives of their own. They are either involved in sports or going to the gym, always competing against other men to be the best. A boring and unsexy man will have a lack of passion. There are men out there that have no drive to be the best and nothing to

A man with passion is very attractive to a woman because she wants to be close to the fire that is burning inside of him. A boring man doesn’t strive for anything and is fine with the status quo which a woman can find boring especially if she is ambitious.
These are just a few of the qualities that you can look out for when jumping head first into the dating game. Keep a look out for the boring man and don’t waste your time trying to change him. Boring men will always be boring.

How to Rock Singleness during the Holidays and New Year

No doubt dating in the holidays is hard if you are single. All those holiday parties, awkward work parties, and family get-togethers.

Here are a couple tips from your friends at The Catch on how to rock during this holiday season and New Years.

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  • Be a yes wo(man).  Don’t avoid holidays parties or social functions because you are dateless.  What ends up happening if you flake out is you end up alone,  being a couch potato and pack on those calories while watching your favorite show reruns.  Sure you may get the “oh you don’t have a date?” from your annoying aunt or friend,  but there is more to gain than lose here.  For one, you can get creative on your response with excuses like – yeah I just broke up with him/her,  I’m focused on me right now and doing really well with my career or even snarky like “I’m all about casual dating.”  And there is always that chance that you may meet that him/her at the restaurant or bar you are at and you guys can bond over spiked egg nog.  No one to kiss at midnight?  There could be a handsome stranger waiting for you.
  • Be Open Minded.  We all have that perfect man or woman we want to take home for the holidays and kiss on New Years. For most of my early 20s I was focused too much on just looks and not the brain.  All I ended up with was a lower IQ and always feeling fat.  Make your resolution about finding the one that can make you laugh.  Swipe right on that guy and then actually do follow up in a convo – I know it’s hard but you can do it!
  • Reach out to Old Friends.  Don’t be the guy/girl who does those massive text messages that say something impersonal and generic like “Happy Holidays” or “Happy New Year”.  Actually take the time out to reach out individually to people whom you lost touch with,  catch up with them, and chances are they may have some new friends that may lead to a potential date.
  • Go Grocery Shopping and look damn good.  There have been countless times when I have been picked up at a grocery store.  Why? You usually are alone and usually find a lot of single people shopping as well.  In any case, the single ones are easy to spot based on their shopping cart.  If you are bold enough ask a guy in the fruit aisle “how do you know if a mango is ripe?”

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  • Do Something New –  go into your Facebook events and find something interesting that you won’t normally do and do it!  For example Morning Glory, a yoga class, Aerial Silks, hip hop.
  • Workout.  Working out releases endorphins,  and endorphins make you happy.  The more you work out the better you feel about yourself and it shows in your confidence, and confidence scores more dates.

Download The Catch Today and find that date for New Years! 

Top 10 Ways to Make a Man Swoon Over You

What is it about some women that makes men swoon over them? Sure, they’re attractive and sexy, but there has got to be more than their appearance that keeps men wanting them. Since looking good will only get you so far, when you are in a relationship you want to be sure you do certain things to keep your man interested and make him realize that he’s hit the jackpot. There is a lot that goes into the making this happen, but if you play your cards right, you will have your man falling in love and swooning over you in no time.

Here are the top 10 ways to make a man swoon over you.

Show your appreciation

When your boyfriend does something sweet, it is important that you show him that you appreciate his kind gesture. It may not be something that you need to do all the time, but in return, do something special for him. When you show a person that you appreciate them, it makes them want to continue to do nice things for you, but it also allows them to see what type of person you are.

Show interest in his hobbies

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Not every man and woman have the same interests and hobbies. It is very common for couples to want to do different things, but every once in awhile you should make an attempt to show an interest in your boyfriend’s hobbies. Whether it be playing video games are going golfing, it will show him that you pay attention to what he likes and and that you have no problem with the things that he is interested in.

Cook for him

It has been said that the best way to a man’s heart is through his stomach. For some men, this is true. If you know how to cook, or even if you don’t, you should try to prepare meals for your boyfriend any chance you get. It may not have to be the best meal of his life, but are you taking the time out to make sure he is fed, which will make you more desirable in his eyes.

Send him naughty texts and pics

You don’t need to be classy and appropriate at all moments throughout your relationship. Men love to see that sexy, exciting side of their girlfriends, so every once in awhile send him a naughty text or pics. It is up to you, but you may want to leave nothing to the imagination. Chances are, whether you show only a little skin or bear it all, he will be longing  for you.

Dress Sexy

Your boyfriend should your body attractive no matter what size you are, but even if you aren’t sure, don’t be afraid to flaunt what you’ve been given. Men love to see their women all dolled up and dressed sexy. Schedule a fancy dinner and break out that skin tight, sexy red dress that he loves so much and show him why who’s the real winner in the relationship.

Show off your sense of humor

Everyone loves to laugh, so if you have a great sense of humor, it is important that your boyfriend sees this. You don’t need to play pranks on him or send him funny memes all the time, but do try to enjoy a comedy or make fun of things together. When couples can laugh together it shows that they have a connection, but it can also deepen their love and understanding of one another.

Be supportive

Everyone will need someone to stand by them at certain points in their life. When you are with someone, it is part of the job description to be there for them in a time of need. While some people don’t feel it is necessary to be present during these times, others recognize the importance of being there for someone when they are not doing well mentally, physically, financially or emotionally. Men can be tough and sometimes act like they do not need anyone, but you know your boyfriend better than anyone else, so if they need you, you need to be there.

Show him that you care about him

There are a number of things you can do to show your boyfriend that you care for him. It could be a small gesture like folding his laundry and putting it away, or something a bit bigger like getting him that expensive watch he has been eyeing. Women often complain about their boyfriends not listening to them or caring about how they really feel, but men could have the same thoughts and complaints about women. You don’t need to buy your boyfriend everything under the sun or tend to his every need as if you are his maid, but it is okay to show him that you care.

Give him his space

Women can sometimes get needy and clingy when they’re in a relationship, so it is important to give your boyfriend space when he needs it. Ideally, you will want to do this before he even asks for it. Having to tell your significant other that they are smothering you or that you need space isn’t always the easiest conversation to have, so to help avoid having that awkward discussion, you should just assume that every once in awhile your boyfriend will need some alone time. This is good for you because while he is enjoying his alone time, you can enjoy yours, too.

Ask him for help

Men like to feel needed by their girlfriends, so even if it is something small, don’t hesitate to ask him for help. You also want to be sure to ask him for help when you really need him for something as well. While men do love women are independent, you don’t want to make him feel like you don’t need him at all. You want to feel like he needs you and that he knows that you can come to him when you need help, so why not make sure that feeling is mutual?