Tips on Holiday Dating and Social Events

The Holiday Season is fast approaching, Thanksgiving is just around the corner and all of the Christmas Parties will begin.While singles often dread being solo over the holidays, the truth is the holidays are one of the busiest times of the year for dating. Whether it’s due to holiday breakups or New Year’s resolutions. Christmas and February are when the most singles are online seeking a match. With this type of dating traffic, the holidays are not only perfect for gathering with your current loved ones, but also the time to seek out your future loved one

Now, we will be talking about dating during the holidays and share 8 dating tips in a classy way.

Tip #1: Present Yourself In A Classy Way

What you wear and your body language says a lot about you. Dress for the occasion that you are going to in the environment. If you’re going to Mom and Dad’s house and it’s a house party where everyone’s going to dress casual, this is not the time that you want to put on a skin type short dress body con with a plunging neckline. It just is not going to look appropriate. You’re going to stand out like an eyesore so dress for the occasion that you are going to. 

Also, body language is huge. Make sure you’re smiling, have good posture, and make eye contact with people when you are greeting them. When you’re in conversation don’t be making eye contact with your cell phone. If you want people to say yes to you, it’s all in how you project yourself. Always remember, people are making a perception of you within seconds of you walking into the environment that the party is at.

Tip #2: Stay Off Your Cell Phone

Even if other people are on their phones, it always looks more proper and more classy if you have your cell phone put away. A lot of times we will see a table full of people with cellphones everywhere but is it necessary just because everyone’s doing it doesn’t mean that you need to. Put the Cell phone away.

Tip #3: Arrive a Few Minutes Early, On Time, But Never Late

If dinner is at two o’clock, then by golly that means you’re ready for dinner at two o’clock. Your coat is off, you’ve turned in the dish that you made to pass, you’ve gone to the restroom to freshen up, and you’re ready to go at two o’clock. 

During the holidays, it’s understandable that there are some cocktail parties that start at 7:00 or 8:00 at night and they’re going to go all night long,that is when you can make an exception. But when it is a dinner engagement, that is much different and there’s a time that you should be there.

Also, if you have an RSVP waiting to turn back in, make sure you get on that. When we don’t RSVP to an event it really shows that we are irresponsible and you never want anyone to think that way about you. That is not keeping it classy during the holidays or any other time of the year.

Tip #4: Offer To Help

When you arrive, always ask the host “What can I do to help?”, “Would you like me to do this?”. If you see something that needs to be done during the party, let’s say some garbage that needs to be emptied, don’t hesitate to approach the host and ask where you can get a garbage bag. Always be that guest and it goes a long way. 

Tip #5: Bring A Hostess Gift

That is always such a nice gesture. Don’t complicate it, it is not that hard. Just keep it simple. 

A lot of times when we go to a party we do know a little bit about the host and hostess, so if you know they like wine, a bottle of wine is a great gift. You could get a tin of cookies. Flowers are great as well. 

What you have to be cautious of is you never want to take a hostess gift that is going to put the hostess in a position where they have to do something with it. So you don’t want to walk in with a bouquet of flowers that they now have to go find a vase and cut the stems. Anything that you take should be easy for the hostess to set to the side and look at it later after the party is over.

Tip #6: Speak ill Of No One

Just don’t do it. And if someone else is, find something else to do with your time. The other thing, don’t speak negative about anything. It’s just not the time and no one wants to hear it. If you are giving off negative energy, that’s exactly what you are going to get back. Again, how do you want to project yourself? Do you want people to say yes to you? Or you want people to kind of work their way away from you? Don’t give off that negative complaining behaviour and attitude. There’s just no time for it. 

Tip #7: Do Not Be A High Maintenance Dining Guest

We have a lot of people with food sensitivities, you didn’t choose that. We understand for those of us don’t have sensitivities but there’s a lot that people can do. When we say about high- maintenance dining, we’re not saying that if you have food sensitivities, you’re high maintenance. I think it’s important that if you have some severe allergies to certain foods, if you have not communicated that to the hostess, do it ahead of time or bring some food that you could eat if there’s something that you can’t. 

The high maintenance part is when we draw attention to ourselves. So there’s nothing wrong with not wanting to eat certain things. There’s nothing wrong with being choosy about your food. It’s what you do with it. There are some people that just draw so much attention to themselves. In a restaurant, they will hold the wait staff up forever because they’re modifying this, they’re modifying that, they’re doing this, they’re doing that. Again, there’s picky eating, and there’s food sensitivities.

Tip #8: Check Your Emotions and Manage Them

Don’t have a bad attitude. If you and your spouse got into a little disagreement en route to Thanksgiving or to a Christmas Party, leave it in the car, no one wants to know about it. We all have bad days, we all have bad moods, we offer to get things and to turn around, and maybe that sets you off. Just accept these things do happen, put on a smiling face, have a good time.

Am I Too Picky?

Am I too picky? Im sure you have asked yourself that question, one too many times! Seeing love all around you, the holidays are quickly approaching, engagements seeming to be everywhere…why am I single? Am I really that picky? Is a man with a full head of hair and teeth too much to ask for?!

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On a serious note, no, you are not too picky. In fact, I can’t stand that question. It is 100% ok to have preferences, standards, and to set the bar high. We are talking about a life partner, right? Having standards that are realistic is what matters. If you have to have a supermodel that has perfectly white teeth, a shredded body, and millions in the bank, then maybe you need to reevaluate.

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You are not perfect, therefore, you can’t expect perfection. I always recommend, choose two physical characteristics that really stand out to you. If you like a tall man, focus on height and one more quality. Choose 5 non negotiable inner qualities that you want in a partner. Focus on these traits. Embody these traits! If you want someone who is kind, generous, loving, active.. you need to be all of the things too! Focus on becoming the best version of yourself.

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Knowing what you want is so important, while staying open to possibilities. Maybe your guy is 5’11 instead of 6 feet but hilarious and has the best smile. You can live with that, right?  So, stay open, have fun in the process, and love will soon be tapping you on the shoulder.

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