Love Vs Fear

Are you struggling being single? Do you feel that you put in a ton of effort but still have no dates, no men, no NOTHING? It is not that you are meant to be single, called to be single, or that the world is holding out on you. In fact, you are meant to have love! It is for you. It is your birthright. So, if you are looking for a sign, this is your sign. Love is just around the corner. It is about choosing love, being love, and most importantly, believing in love. Follow these tips below, and claim the love that is waiting for you!

  • In all moments, realize you can choose love or fear. Fear is the most common problem when single. Your ego tells you that you can’t have love, that maybe it is not meant for you, that there are no quality men or women, etc, etc. You in those moments of fear based thoughts, can choose love! See yourself as love and it will be here before you know it!

 

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  • Love is not just for the special people. Love is for all! Remember that no one is more deserving for a soulmate. We all are! In times of doubt, remember that you are negatively special

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  • Believe. You truly have to believe that your love desire and yearning for a partner is the truth! Keep deciding that love is for you and I promise, it will be

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Fear is the biggest problem with singles today. We are so consumed with thoughts that just are not the truth. If you keep focusing on love and becoming love, your love life will start to shift. It is all about your mindset and setting an intention.

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Chasing Men

Ever find yourself so consumed with anxiety after a date? OMG, should I call him, text him, make him mine? What do I need to do? What about if I just send this message or picture? I know every woman has done this. I know I have. We all feel that we need to take so much action in our love life. We all feel if we say the wrong thing or make a mistake, he may not choose us. We all have this desire to join every dating app, dating site, dating event that ever existed in hopes to find our soulmate only to be disappointed. Chasing and hunting never works my friends. It is about inspired action with a clear and aligned heart. You won’t have to chase the right man. You won’t have to remind him of your existence. He will just know. He will know that you are the high quality woman he wants. Let him lead. Let him pursue. Let him chase you. Below are some tips to follow to not be the pursuer, but to be that desirable woman that is a man magnet.

 

  • Be confident. Sounds easy, right? Not so much. It takes inner work and awareness! You need to exude an authentic confidence. Your true essence. Really staying in your power and knowing your worth and what you deserve

 

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  • Be feminine and leaned back. Lean back, ladies! Know your worth. Stay in your feminine power. Men are hunters, you are not 😉

 

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  • Be willing to receive. Allow yourself to be and receive your desired man! You are the prize and worth pursuing. Make sure you fully receive this.

 

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Follow these tips and you will have men chasing you! Never having to chase them.

Fashion Tips For Women

Dating Fashion Tips for Women

 

Dating today is a challenge in itself, but having to worry about how you dress and look, only adds more pressure. The tips below will get you that second date! What you wear does matter because you only get one first impression.

 

  • Stay away from black:

Wear something bright and fun. Black can give off a serious and sad vibe

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  • Don’t wear a baggy or poor fitting outfit

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Don’t show up like a sloppy Sally or like you threw on a potato sack. Not a good look. Enough said.

 

  • Don’t wear a fancy over the top outfit –

Showing up like a Kardashian on a first date is not the best idea. Less is more. Men do not appreciate high maintenance but a natural beauty.

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  • Wear a dress

Men love dresses. Men love femininity. Show off your best assets! If you have killer legs, where a dress that emphasizes that.

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  • Don’t wear something he could

This seems like a no brainer but if he possibly has that t-shirt in his closet, it’s a no go. Men love feminine clothes so remember that!

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  • Wear your hair down.

96% of men love longer hair. Embrace that

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Follow these tips ladies, and you are well on your way to nailing that first date and making the ultimate first impression.

 

 

 

How To Be Irresistible To Men

Ever wonder how some women have men just flock and swoon over them with little to no effort? You see that girl with men always surrounding her or just worshipping the ground she walks on? You sit back and think, ” what does she have that I don’t?” First of all, it is your energy. A light, carefree, unattached, beautiful energy about yourself. It starts from within. It actually has nothing to do with your physical appearance. Men feel that carefree and light hearted nature. Not a desperate, oh my God, you need to pick me, energy. Some tips below will help you be a man magnet and get you the love that you deserve.

  • Confidence and eye contact

Confidence is so important and incredibly attractive to a man. Men love a woman who knows who she is and what she wants. Eye contact shows a man that you are approachable. Hold eye contact for 5 seconds ( yes, seems like an eternity) and flash a smile. He will be sure to come up to you.

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  • Sexiness Not Desperate

Not appearing too desperate or needy is very attractive to men. They do not want you to call or text a million times. They are attracted to a woman who is strong, independent, and has a life of her own.

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  • Humor

Women are not  the only ones who love to laugh! Men can’t help but find a funny woman irresistible. Funny, smart, beautiful? Men just can’t help but swoon. Wit and a great sense of humor out weigh any physical attractive trait.

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  • Up beat attitude

A bright outlook is such a sexy trait. Men find it to be refreshing and addicting to be around. Who likes a bleak personality? Ummm, no one. Smile, be carefree, and exude a loving disposition, and any man will fall for you.

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Follow these tips and you will be well on your way to finding that special someone!

Fashion Tips For Men

Fashion Tips for Men

 

Fellas! Time to bring your A game to dates. Not just your charm, but how you dress. Women love a man with style and swagger, so check your closet and yourself 😉 Here are some tips that will definitely impress your date and have you on the road to dating success

 

  • Invest in some awesome jeans and killer shoes. Women appreciate style and class. In the words of George Michael, Sometimes the clothes do make the manMan in Black Leather Zip-up Jacket and Black Jeans Wearing Black Sunglasses
  • A nice watch. A sleek and effortless fashion statement

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  • A leather wallet. Investing in a trendy and timeless wallet is key. No woman wants to see a beaten up piece of velcro. You feel me?

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  • A well fitted button up shirt. Women appreciate a tailored man that puts in effort. This is a perfect go to!

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  • A Polo- who doesn’t love a preppy guy?!

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  • Cologne- women swoon over a man that smells amazing. Invest in a masculine and powerful scent. This will make any woman weak in the knees

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  • Lastly, exude confidence. 41% of women find this to be the most attractive trait

 

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Follow these tips and you will be one step closer to the love you seek!

 

Deal Killers For a First Date

Sometimes you really only get one shot with a date. That dream girl or dream guy. They say, you only have one chance to make a first impression. This stands true! As nerve wracking as dating is in general, it is important to put your best foot forward and be prepared to really be the best version of yourself. Sometimes, there is not second chance. You can’t turn back time and redo things that you once did on your date. Soooo… be prepared and go into a date with a positive attitude and most importantly, a big smile. Follow the tips below and your first impression will be a lasting one.

  • Be Positive

Stay away from negative and heavy topics.  No one wants to hear about your horrific ex, how catastrophic dating is, how you hate your job, boss, life, car..blah blah,blah. Check Please!

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  • Don’t bring up future dates with other people

This is a huge turn off. No one wants to hear about the 5 or 6 other potentials you are juggling. Not a good look. Your date does not want to feel like just a number. Plus, no need to talk about it. If it goes well, you may not need to go out with others!

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  • Checking your phone

Ahhh! This is the worst. 60% of people consider this to be deal breaker. This is not challenging to understand. Your date wants your full attention and for you to be present. You don’t want to appear disinterested and that your phone addiction is real.

  • Don’t Get Drunk

This seems like an obvious one, but throwing back several drinks to calm the nerves, is not the best choice. Stick to a two drink maximum. You do not want to embarrass yourself and get sloppy drunk. That will guarantee not being asked out again. Not the goal, right?

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  • Wearing a lame t-shirt or sloppy outfit

It is important to dress to impress. Men, Ed Hardy is over. No graphic tees, please! Show up in something that shows confidence and effort. Ladies, show up in something that is feminine and exudes your beauty.  No potato sacks or baggy tees. Trust me on this.

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These tips will make your dating life successful and have you get a second, third, and fourth date! Maybe even that awesome relationship you want 😉

Signs A Man Is Ready To Commit

I bet there are sooo many women who have found themselves dating ” the unavailable man, Mr. Peter Pan, and the ultimate commitment phobe, who just can’t seem to pull the trigger. We all have been there! However, there are signs to pay attention to in order to know if you are dealing with the right type of men that you are wanting to attract into your life. Below are some tips to stay aware of when trying to find that diamond in the ruff.

  • Know his intention

Men who just want to “hang out” or ” are just looking to meet new friends” These terms all indicate a man that may not be on the relationship seeking path. When men use terms such as “date” it shows commitment and planning. No man who is ready for love will be afraid to use the word “date.”

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  • Reliable

Pay attention if a man gives you notice. If a man texts you an hour before asking you out, it may show signs of not being serious. If he gives plenty of notice and puts thought into the day and time, then that is something to really pay attention to because he is committed and showing follow through. It shows he values your time and whether or not you are a priority in his life

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  • Communication

You had an amazing date! It was so much fun and the night seemed just perfect. Then….crickets… not a word! This can mean more than you think. He is either not serious about finding a serious relationship or just simply, he is just not that into you.

 

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  • Exclusive Time

When a man makes time for you and only you, that is a great sign of a man seeking a commitment. He wants to get to know you on an emotional and deeper level. He is not in a rush for physicality, but establishing a foundation that will lead to love.

What Men Really Need From Women

What do men really need in a relationship and from their partner? It may not be exactly what you think! It is much more complicated than one would imagine. Every man is different and therefore has different wants and needs. Our culture is continuing to change and so are relationships. Relationships can be so complicated and are never the same day to day. The following tips will help guide you and create awareness to understanding your partner on a deeper level.

  • Having a warm and open heart

Men at times, have difficulty sharing their feelings, emotions, wants, needs, and fears. More than anything, they want a woman who they can be vulnerable with. They want a partner that they can share their deepest layer with. Someone whose heart is open to listen and be receptive.

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  • Time

Men love women who are good listeners and give them their time. Men will shut down if you do not make the time to listen to them or time for them in general. They need undivided and uninterrupted time spent. Men need this in order to really express who they are. Being positive and creating an upbeat space, really draws your man closer.

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  • Respect

All people want respect. For men, this is huge! Men are always wanting to be appreciated and feel valued. They want to be encouraged and feel you are always rooting for them.

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  • Freedom

Men want space and time for themselves. They don’t want to feel they are on a leash 24/7. They want to enjoy their hobbies, interests, and friends. Respecting their time and space, will definitely make your relationship last.

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  • Being Yourself

Men love when you are just being you! Not pretending or trying so hard to be the ideal woman. They just want you to be your true self and no one else.

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  • Attraction

Men and women need to be attracted to their partner. This is so important and crucial. Without this, there is no foundation for a romantic connection.

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Approaching Someone in Real Life

Approaching a Man or Woman

 

The thought of meeting someone in real life has become such a rarity due to technology taking over! Everyone is so consumed by their smart phone that we all forget what it is like to actually approach someone. Gasp! Saying hello has become so hard! It doesn’t have to be. We live in a big world with single people everywhere! Follow these tips and the cute guy or girl you see at Starbucks, may just be your next love.

 

  • Smile and Make Eye Contact

Man or woman- give a sweet smile and hold eye contact for 5 seconds. Seems like forever but it gives the signal that you are approachable and interested!

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  • Walk up and introduce yourself.

Seems simple enough! You can start by saying, “ Excuse me..” No one really remembers how you started the conversation anyway

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  • Be confident

Show confidence and avoid hesitation. Everyone responds to confidence and security. There is nothing more attractive then a person who knows who they are and is proud of it

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  • Be Bold

Ask them out! Get the digits. Go for it! The time is now to take a chance. Big risk, Big reward

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Follow these tips when you are out and about. Real life encounters open an entire dating pool that is untouched. You would be surprised how many awesome people you can meet

Love Liars

Ever feel like someone you are dating may not be who they say they are? Do you ever get that feeling that maybe someone is too good to be true? Not to sound like a pessimist, as I am the biggest romantic at heart there is, but love liars do exist. Some men and women will put on a pretty face and tell you what you want to hear! They are not forth coming  with who they are, their past, their dating history, and some information that should be shared out of respect and transparency. Follow the tips below to really screen the men and women you begin to date! Safety, honesty, and having both eyes open is the smart way to date. Quite frankly, it is the only way to successfully date, leading you to everlasting love.

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  • Only Fools Rush In

Be patient and take your time! No need to rush so fast and have an instant relationship. Get to know one another. Learn about each other on a non surface level

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  • Ask Important Questions

People love to talk about themselves! Make sure to ask questions that really depict the person’s character, interests, and morals. It does not take too long, to really get an idea of someone’s true self

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  • Pay Attention to How They Treat Others

How someone treats someone, will eventually be how you are treated. Pay attention to how your date treats the waiter, the barista, a nearby patron, etc. If they show disrespect, you can be sure they will disrespect you one day

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I hope these tips help! Get to know your date, their likes and dislikes, and who they really are! Sometimes you have to kiss a lot of frogs first! True love does exist and there are so many awesome people in the world. You just have to be cautious of those who lie in love.

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