Approaching Someone in Real Life

Approaching a Man or Woman

 

The thought of meeting someone in real life has become such a rarity due to technology taking over! Everyone is so consumed by their smart phone that we all forget what it is like to actually approach someone. Gasp! Saying hello has become so hard! It doesn’t have to be. We live in a big world with single people everywhere! Follow these tips and the cute guy or girl you see at Starbucks, may just be your next love.

 

  • Smile and Make Eye Contact

Man or woman- give a sweet smile and hold eye contact for 5 seconds. Seems like forever but it gives the signal that you are approachable and interested!

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  • Walk up and introduce yourself.

Seems simple enough! You can start by saying, “ Excuse me..” No one really remembers how you started the conversation anyway

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  • Be confident

Show confidence and avoid hesitation. Everyone responds to confidence and security. There is nothing more attractive then a person who knows who they are and is proud of it

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  • Be Bold

Ask them out! Get the digits. Go for it! The time is now to take a chance. Big risk, Big reward

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Follow these tips when you are out and about. Real life encounters open an entire dating pool that is untouched. You would be surprised how many awesome people you can meet

Love Liars

Ever feel like someone you are dating may not be who they say they are? Do you ever get that feeling that maybe someone is too good to be true? Not to sound like a pessimist, as I am the biggest romantic at heart there is, but love liars do exist. Some men and women will put on a pretty face and tell you what you want to hear! They are not forth coming  with who they are, their past, their dating history, and some information that should be shared out of respect and transparency. Follow the tips below to really screen the men and women you begin to date! Safety, honesty, and having both eyes open is the smart way to date. Quite frankly, it is the only way to successfully date, leading you to everlasting love.

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  • Only Fools Rush In

Be patient and take your time! No need to rush so fast and have an instant relationship. Get to know one another. Learn about each other on a non surface level

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  • Ask Important Questions

People love to talk about themselves! Make sure to ask questions that really depict the person’s character, interests, and morals. It does not take too long, to really get an idea of someone’s true self

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  • Pay Attention to How They Treat Others

How someone treats someone, will eventually be how you are treated. Pay attention to how your date treats the waiter, the barista, a nearby patron, etc. If they show disrespect, you can be sure they will disrespect you one day

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I hope these tips help! Get to know your date, their likes and dislikes, and who they really are! Sometimes you have to kiss a lot of frogs first! True love does exist and there are so many awesome people in the world. You just have to be cautious of those who lie in love.

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Reasons For No Second Date

Dating today definitely has its challenges. With so many options, many men and women experience the one and done date time and time again. It can be difficult to land that second date and make an incredible impression! Many of you have experienced an incredible date where you felt it was amazing, filled with chemistry….and then crickets. No call. No text. Not a word. There are very possible reasons why this happens. You spend hours analyzing why they didn’t contact you. Below, are the top reasons why a second date may not happen.

  • Not being real and coming across fake

Everyone wants to be on their best behavior on a first date, but there is huge difference from being real and authentic to having to be perfect and amazing at everything. People appreciate flaws, being down to earth, and most importantly, just being yourself

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  • Being Too Real

Everyone appreciates realness and honesty, however, some people can over do it. Airing your dirty laundry, skeletons in your closet, and sharing way too much all at once, is not well received. It is too much for one to take in. Keeping it light and fun is key.

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  • Only Talking About Yourself

When you can’t stop talking about yourself and make yourself the center of all conversation, your date loses interest. You may find them with a blank stare not even paying attention to what you are saying. Keep the conversation going back and forth. Ask questions. Be engaged with each other.

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  • Poor Hygiene

You don’t have to be perfect and dressed to the nines. However, not representing yourself in the best light, has its consequences. We all notice if a man or woman comes to a date looking sloppy, wearing a dirty shirt, messy hair, and not smelling up to par. When you ate a garlic tuna sandwich for lunch as one can guess, not a good look. Point made.

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  • Awful Conversation Topics

When you go on and on about your ex. Your date doesn’t want to hear it. Not only is it uncomfortable, we don’t care. Sorry. We want to know you, not your past relationship. Talking about politics is a recipe for disaster. Stay away from topics that will possibly cause an argument. You want fun, light, and happy conversation. The date should be fun, after all.

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Follow these tips and you will be well on your way to finding love and experiencing more and more quality dates.

Reasons Men Play Games

You just had an amazing 4th date with your dream man! The date was filled with chemistry, laughter, joy, and romance.  You felt it was going in such a promising direction. He seemed 100% all in and was on the relationship train. All of a sudden… he disappears. Nothing. No call. No text. Just radio silence.  Finally, you decide to cave and send a follow up text. Hours go by and then finally….a half hearted response. Searching for answers, you are left analyzing. Why the game playing? Why the mix of emotions? All women have experienced this. Below are some possible reasons to help make sense of why this happens.

  • Some women love it

Some women actually love the unpredictability and chase. They love the thrill of the unknown and excitement it can create.

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  • Fear of Committing

Some men who are so hot and cold, are actually not ready for a relationship. They are not 100% ready to commit and are not fully available to go all in. Past heartache, job struggles, self worth issues, all keep men at times from taking the risk for love.

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  • Ladies Man

Some men just can’t get enough of the ladies! They have a wondering eye and just have zero desire for something real and serious. They might say that they do, but they just love having so many options. Nothing personal, but they can’t seem to really be devoted to one special woman.

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When this happens, walk away. Put your energy into men that are on the same page as you. There are thousands of single men. With a population of 50% being single, there is no need to tolerate behavior such as this.  Stay aware of these signs and you will find quality men looking to create an epic love, while eliminating those who don’t.

Flirting Tips

How to be a good flirt. Flirting is actually a very important part of dating. It is not rocket science, but there are some flirting strategies that you can implement to make your dating life more successful. It is essential in dating because it lets the other person know you are interested without directly saying so. Flirting can make you come off like a stage 5 clinger when done wrong. There is a definite fine line. The tips below will have you be a flirting pro whether in person or online!

  • Maintain eye contact

Eye contact is so important! Don’t stare like a creep, but casually glance over and give a smile

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  • Smile

Smiling is not only sexy, but a few glances and a big smile, gives a clear sign that you are interested in talking and being approached. Don’t be afraid to show your pearly whites!

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  • Soft touch

Touching someone’s arm when speaking is a clear sign of interest. It is sure tell way that you like the person and that attraction is there.

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  • Compliment

Who doesn’t like a sincere and sweet compliment? Try complimenting someone’s eyes, smile, outfit, etc. This is always an excellent way to flirt, but in a non sexual way

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Next time you are out and about and spot that cutie you would love to talk to, try one or two of these tips! It will be well received and could lead to something incredible. You can take it a step further by exchanging numbers. Who knows, you could be on your way to a new and amazing romance that started with just a simple smile.

Online Dating Profile Tips

Online dating can be a challenge in itself. Constantly swiping and scrolling through thousands of profiles. You want to stand out and be noticed. You want to be different than all the rest. Lets get real. No one is swiping right for a blurry pic, a shirtless mirror selfie, or a frat boy slamming a beer. Attractive? I think not. The tips below will have you shine like a diamond, attracting high quality matches, that could just be your catch.

 

  • Get Professional Pictures

Investing in some creative and professional shots will do wonders for you! They look amazing, are eye catching, and will get you noticed. Just think, a stellar photo or some circa 1999 photo that you randomly found buried in your facebook. Yea, point made.

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  • Clear, flattering photos where you are wearing a smile!

Smile!! Big, big smile!! Everyone is attracted to happiness, carefreeness, and a beautiful light energy. Nothing conveys this more than a beautiful smile. Don’t post pictures of an angry face or duck lips. So not a good look.

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  • Show your personality

Display yourself doing something you love! Whether it is hiking, the beach, a picnic, a sport, etc; this is eye catching and gives an idea of what you are like!

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  • Full body and face shots

Always include 2 full body pictures and two solo pictures of yourself. Show yourself off! Choose flattering angles and lighting to really let yourself shine.

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Follow these simple tips and you will be well on your way to online dating success and having more matches than you know what to do with!

10 Signs That She’s Into You

10 Signs That She’s Into You

When some women are interested in men, they may be forward and upfront about their feelings. The worst that can happen is the man will reject them, but for some, the idea of being turned down is too much to bear. Instead of being open about how they feel, they drop subtle hints until a guy makes a move. The problem with this approach is that not all guys will be able to read a girl’s signals or know if her actions are saying “I’m interested in you” or “leave me alone.” In order for this to work, men need to be aware of the little things that women will do to show their interest and get their attention without being obvious.

Here are 10 signs that you can look for if you want to know if a woman is into you or not.

She laughs at you

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People love to laugh, whether they are male or female. If you have a great sense of humor, that is a huge plus. If a woman laughs at you, you are definitely scoring points, but if she makes an effort to lock eyes while she is laughing, this is a good sign.

She checks you out

It is sometimes hard for people to hide their attraction to another person. With this being the case, when a woman is into you, she will most likely check you out a few times. It could be your eyes, hair, mouth or even your muscles she is drawn to, but the point is, if she is checking you out, there is a chance she wants you.

She makes eye contact

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Eye contact can be uncomfortable for some, but when a woman is interested in you, she will not shy away from locking eye with you. Take advantage of these moments, and look into her eyes. She may be trying to establish a connection, so if you like her, just go with it.

She gets dolled up for you

There is no need for women to get dolled up everyday, and not everyone does. But, if she knows she is going to run into her crush, she will put some effort into her appearance. Depending on the circumstances, you can’t assume that she is only dressed nice because of you, but if it is a situation where the two of you are hanging out, it would be safe to make that assumption.

She confides in you

Women tend to be very private people when they are just meeting someone. It is not attractive to go spilling your guts to strangers or tell the your deepest, darkest secrets, so for the most part, they don’t reveal too much. If a woman takes the time to tell you about herself, that means she wants you to get to know her better. She’s interested in you, but in order for things to go anywhere, you need to know things about one another. Her opening up to you is the start of that. She is risking you being turned off, but in the end, if all goes well, you will be attracted to her even more.

She touches your body

Arms, hands, shoulders, knees. There are a number of places that a woman will try to touch you during conversation. Touching is a sign of affection, but men can also see this as a sign that a woman likes him. Don’t be afraid to reciprocate and touch her back. You don’t want to be creepy and touch her inappropriately, so maybe something small like touching her hand will suffice.

She sits close to you

A girl will only get so close if she is not interested in you because she may not want to give you the wrong idea. If she is into you, she will probably sit a little bit closer than any other girls. This is her attempt to mark her territory and prevent other females from approaching you.

She scans your face

There is probably one or a few things about your face that your crush finds attractive. Maybe you have eyes that she gets lost in or a set of kissable lips? Whatever it may be, she will likely be scanning your face and admiring your looks whenever you are together.

She initiates conversation

It is always a struggle when two people want to text each other, but don’t want to initiate conversation. Society has made people think that the first person to text is weaker or more sensitive, but it really means they are brave. The ice is never going to be broken if no one takes that first step, so if a girl texts or calls you first, she probably likes you at least a little. Don’t let her start the conversation every time you talk, because she may get confused about your feelings for her. Every once in awhile, be sure to step up to the plate and shoot her a text before she gets the chance to.

She wants to learn more about you

No one is going to waste their time hearing about someone else’s life unless they genuinely have an interest in the person they are learning about. This is your chance to let her know who you really are, so don’t be afraid to share stories that show her how kind, caring and sweet you can be. You want to appeal to her and the best way to do this is to let her know what you are really about.

You may expect people to be forward and open about what they’re feeling and what they want, but not everyone is comfortable going after the man or woman of their dreams. When people fail to be upfront about their feelings, they often try to convey things through small acts and gestures. Women may be hard to read, but that doesn’t mean it is impossible to do. Part of picking up their signs and signals requires men to pay close attention. If you are able to do that, then you may be able to recognize that the woman you have been pining over has actually been seeking your attention.

 

Happy Valentine’s Day! Top Bachelor and Bachelorettes in Santa Barbara

Today is national love day,  dreaded among all singletons everywhere.  What are your V-Day plans?  We recommend keeping busy, hitting up the gym, a thriller movie or catching up on your tv shows.  Billions Season 2, Episode 1 just came out,  if you haven’t watched it I highly recommend it!

The Catch got a lot of Klout thanks to our amazing ambassadors at UCSB,  CEO Shannon Ong is also an alumnus there so no doubt we have some good looking ladies and gents at the school, who are they? Here are just a few of them below!


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Location: Santa Barbara, CA
Work: South Coast Deli, Student
3 things I look for in a Guy:
    makes me laugh, great smile, I can tease them/joke around
Pet peeves: rude, ignorant or unnecessarily mean people
Favorite food: extra crunchy peanut butter, but I also put hot sauce on literally everything
Favorite band: Fleetwood Mac, Tame Impala, The Beatles, J. Cole, Chance the Rapper, Solange Knowles, Missy Elliot

Jack Flowers, Age 19

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Location: Ojai, CA
Work: Service assistant at the UCEN
3 things I look for in a girl:
   a person who thinks of themselves, someone who is interested in cool hobbies, and someone with high cheek bones
Pet peeves: tailgating
Favorite food: crab
Favorite band: Gorillaz

Kaelyn Tomkins, Age 21

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Current Residence or City: Santa Barbara, CA
Work: Starbucks
3 Things You Look for in a guy
    Sarcasm, honesty, humor
Pet peeves: stopping in the middle of crowds
Favorite Food: pot roast
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Current Residence or City: Isla Vista, Goleta
Work: CEO at PockyFix Mobile Repair, marketing intern for TheCatch
3 Things You Look for in a girl
    kindness, maturity, self discipline and hygiene
Pet peeves:false accusations can be quite annoying,  people throwing attitudes towards me, someone cries over trivial things
Favorite Food:Asian food in general, from dumplings to ramen, fried rice to sushi
Favorite Band:  listen to all types, but if had to choose Big Bang from Korea

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How to Rock Singleness during the Holidays and New Year

No doubt dating in the holidays is hard if you are single. All those holiday parties, awkward work parties, and family get-togethers.

Here are a couple tips from your friends at The Catch on how to rock during this holiday season and New Years.

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  • Be a yes wo(man).  Don’t avoid holidays parties or social functions because you are dateless.  What ends up happening if you flake out is you end up alone,  being a couch potato and pack on those calories while watching your favorite show reruns.  Sure you may get the “oh you don’t have a date?” from your annoying aunt or friend,  but there is more to gain than lose here.  For one, you can get creative on your response with excuses like – yeah I just broke up with him/her,  I’m focused on me right now and doing really well with my career or even snarky like “I’m all about casual dating.”  And there is always that chance that you may meet that him/her at the restaurant or bar you are at and you guys can bond over spiked egg nog.  No one to kiss at midnight?  There could be a handsome stranger waiting for you.
  • Be Open Minded.  We all have that perfect man or woman we want to take home for the holidays and kiss on New Years. For most of my early 20s I was focused too much on just looks and not the brain.  All I ended up with was a lower IQ and always feeling fat.  Make your resolution about finding the one that can make you laugh.  Swipe right on that guy and then actually do follow up in a convo – I know it’s hard but you can do it!
  • Reach out to Old Friends.  Don’t be the guy/girl who does those massive text messages that say something impersonal and generic like “Happy Holidays” or “Happy New Year”.  Actually take the time out to reach out individually to people whom you lost touch with,  catch up with them, and chances are they may have some new friends that may lead to a potential date.
  • Go Grocery Shopping and look damn good.  There have been countless times when I have been picked up at a grocery store.  Why? You usually are alone and usually find a lot of single people shopping as well.  In any case, the single ones are easy to spot based on their shopping cart.  If you are bold enough ask a guy in the fruit aisle “how do you know if a mango is ripe?”

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  • Do Something New –  go into your Facebook events and find something interesting that you won’t normally do and do it!  For example Morning Glory, a yoga class, Aerial Silks, hip hop.
  • Workout.  Working out releases endorphins,  and endorphins make you happy.  The more you work out the better you feel about yourself and it shows in your confidence, and confidence scores more dates.

Download The Catch Today and find that date for New Years!