Online Dating Dos and Don’ts

The world of dating can be brutal for those looking to settle down and build a life with someone. It is hard enough to find someone genuine and honest that you can trust, but when there are so many people out there, you never know what you will get. However, that doesn’t mean there is nothing you can do to help you weed out the bad ones. Whether you are dating online or meeting people in person, there are some things that are acceptable and others that you should completely steer clear of doing if you want to find that perfect person.

Here are some dos and don’ts for online dating!

 

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Don’t reveal too much about yourself

Not revealing too much about yourself is just as important online as it is when in person. Seeing as how pretty much all of the people you will run into online will be strangers, you don’t want to go giving out your address, phone number, social security and underwear size. It is okay for people to know things about you, but limit what you tell people about yourself, so they can’t use it against you in any way. Identities are stolen everyday and surely don’t want to be added to list of victims.

Do give people a good sense of who you are

When dating online, you want to give people a good sense of who you are and what you are looking for in a partner. Let people know your likes and dislikes, but focus on the positive qualities that you would like your partner to possess. You also want to clearly explain the type of person you are when in a relationship. Are you romantic? Are you mushy and show your appreciation for your partner any chance you get? What are your good qualities?

Don’t lie about important things

Adding an inch or two to your height or saying that you have blue eyes when they are actually dark brown are fairly small lies that people may be able to get over easily should you meet anyone in person. It’s the big lies about important things that will cause problems. Working as a busser at an upscale restaurant does not mean you are a professional chef online, so be honest. If you and another person hit if off, they are eventually going to find out what you really do for a living.

Do share what makes you unique

Everyone has one or two qualities about them that makes them stand out from others on the dating scene. If it is not anything too weird or outrageous, you will want to add it to your profile. Again, don’t lie or exaggerate about anything. Just be who you are and someone will be accepting of that.

Don’t use another person’s pictures

“Catfishing” seems to be a thing nowadays, but some people are online really looking for love, so don’t use pictures that aren’t of you. Everyone has their flaws, but that doesn’t mean it is okay to make people believe that you are someone else. Even if you aren’t photogenic or don’t feel that you are the most attractive person around, stick to posting pictures of yourself.

Do choose pictures that show off your best assets

Maybe you have big green eyes or long, silky locks. Whatever your best asset is, don’t be afraid to flaunt it. However, you want to keep things PG and not flaunt certain assets too much. You want to get attention from people because of your personality, not simply because of how you look.

Don’t fill your profile with random facts about yourself

Yes, you want people to know what type of person you are, but you don’t want to fill your profile with random facts about yourself. You want to make sure everything makes sense and flows, so people won’t get lost and confused about what type of person who are or what message you are trying to convey.

Do check your spelling

Not everyone is a great speller, but everyone has spell check on their computer, so spelling errors just shouldn’t exist on your profile. If you aren’t sure how to spell something, take the time to look it up. Some people really do care if a person can spell, so be careful what you say and how you spell it.

Don’t be too trusting of the people who contact you

You never know what a person’s motive may be when they contact you online, which means you have to be careful who you speak to and what you say to them. If you don’t feel comfortable responding, then don’t. You wouldn’t talk to any random person walking down the street, so you have to be just as selective when dating online. Not everyone deserves your time and attention, especially if they want something different than you.

Do keep conversations light

People often make the mistake of getting too serious too quickly when they are dating online. It is understandable that you don’t want to waste your time and feel the need to ask the tough questions early on, but you are trying to find a life partner and certain subjects shouldn’t be discussed in the early stages if you don’t want to scare them off. You are getting to know each other, but limit how deep your conversations are until you know each other better. Keep things light, fun and easy. Save the heavy stuff for later.

Everyone is different, so just because you decide to put certain things on your profile doesn’t necessarily mean that no one will be interested in you. However, you do want to present yourself in a way that will increase your chances of being noticed and landing a date in person. This is something that you would do in person if you were out at the bar with friends, so it is really no different when dating online. Stay positive, adhere to the dos and don’ts and chances are you will get several people reaching out to you online.

Step Your Profile Game Up!

PICTURES

Pictures Not of You: WHY! Posting some scenery picture is not going to persuade anyone to swipe right on your pic.

Full body shots: Post at least one! You don’t have to be wearing a swimsuit, but show people what you look like. Be proud of yourself!

Your Face: We need to see your face clearly. Take off the helmet!

Selfies: Maaybe one is okay. But if all your pictures are selfies, we’re going to assume you spend waaay too much free time taking selfies.

Group Pics: WHICH ONE ARE YOU! Also don’t post a pic with your friend that’s hotter or for guys, taller.

Things to Avoid: Babies or cars that aren’t yours!

 

ABOUT ME

Keep it simple, stupid!

Please check your spelling and don’t write a novel.

If you don’t know what to write, throw in your favorite emoji or social media accounts.

 

PREFERENCES

Women are pickiest about height and men are most picky about age. If you’re a girl and only want to date someone 6 feet or taller, do not be surprised when you don’t have a lot of matches. That’s less than 15% of the U.S. population! Be open-minded and have fun with it! You never know who you’re going to meet!

 

PRESENCE – BE ACTIVE! 

Ladies: Start games! You can ask whatever questions you want. Have fun with it!

Men: View every game invite. Our back-end algorithm prioritizes users who are logging in regularly.

Don’t want to take our word for it? Take a look at another article here

New Features Added

Thanks to the current beta testers and the feedback,  we listened!

The Catch is excited to announce two new features this week:

1. Profile Page Enhancements.  

Now users can upload multiple pictures and more detailed info is now provided for both female/male users.

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2.  Faster Games!  24 Hour Games.

Rounds have been shortened, you can now answer all 3 questions within 24 hours,  getting to your Catch much faster so you can start planning that date!

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Happy Dating,

The Catch Team

The Catch launches its beta in San Francisco!

We’re excited to announce that The Catch has officially launched it’s beta in San Francisco! We truly believe in creating a safe and playful way to meet someone online.

The Catch is a female-centric dating app that provides a safe space for women to screen men. It’s a unique game in which one woman invites a small group of men to compete for a date. Through successive question and answer rounds, the woman narrows the pool of male contestants based on her satisfaction with their replies. The male contestant with the most compatible responses earns an in-person date.

Women enjoy freedom and privacy – they ask questions that matter while remaining invisible to men whom they are not interested in. For their part, men are eager to compete because they have a one-in-four chance in lieu of sending out a hundred messages.

Our mission was to bring flirty back, it’s about a unique way of connecting with people, its not about what school you go to or what job you have, it is designed to enable serendipity, stop focusing only looks and start looking into other interesting things like personality and chemistry.

What Women Want, Top Questions Women Ask

Finally, the data men have all been waiting for: what do women really want to know on a first date?
QuestionPie2During The Catch’s private beta testing, we allowed our users to choose between asking questions from our own categorized database or inputing their own.
Graph on the left shows that while many went for similar preset questions from our categories (represented by the larger circles), the majority chose to input their own unique questions (represented by the smaller circles).

Below are the top questions by category. Men, take note!

Questions Created by our Users

Question Created by our Users

  • If your life can be summed up by a movie title, what would it be called?
  • What is your drink of choice?
  • It’s the apocalypse. All that remains of the world is you and the SF zoo. Which animal do you eat first and why?
  • List three of the most gentlemanly things you’ve ever done for a woman.
  • You have to plan a date but do it without spending any money. What would you do?

Category: Lifestyle

Lifestyle

  • Describe your ideal Sunday.
  • What kinds of things really make you laugh?

Category: Fun

Fun

  • What did you dress up as for Halloween last year?
  • What is your favorite superpower?

Category: Interest

Common Interests

  • If you could take a vacation anywhere, where would you go and why?
  • Where would you take me on our first date?

Category: Family

Family

  • Describe your dream house.
  • Are you close with your parents? Why or why not?

Category: Culture

Culture

  • Tell me about your favorite American city.
  • Describe the strangest place you’ve ever visited.

Category: Food

Food

  • What is your favorite brunch spot in the city?
  • What is your favorite food?