What NOT To Do On Your Dating Profile

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Creating the perfect online dating profile can take some time. Along with having to craft a perfectly worded statement about who you are and what you are looking for, you have to make sure you sound interesting and spell every word correctly. People are harsh and very quick to pass someone by for the smallest things. From crooked teeth and bushy eyebrows to a perfectly trim waste and healthy, clear skin, there are a lot of different people with a lot of different features that you will run into when you are trying your hand at online dating.

Even though no one is perfect, people still like to pretend they are, which means they will skip over those who don’t meet their standards. With you knowing that people will judge you solely based on your profile pictures and what is in your “About Me” section, there is never any telling how many people will try to connect with you. This type of dating can be fun and entertaining, but having a successful run at it  and increasing your chances of finding love means taking note of the things that you just shouldn’t do on your profile.

Here a few things you should not do on your online dating profile.

Be rude

You want to appeal to other online daters. So when you create your profile, you do not want to come off rude, inconsiderate or callous. People have different thoughts and opinions on various subjects, and while yours may differ from mosts, you don’t want to say the wrong. You should also expect that people you would never give a chance to might contact you. It is true that there are creepers online who may only contact you looking for a one night stand, but it is likely that no matter what you say on your profile, someone you do not want to talk to will reach out. Telling them to leave you alone or not to message you just won’t work. Should this happen, you should handle it accordingly instead of writing something inappropriate on your profile.

Be vulgar

People create online dating profiles for various reasons. One person may be looking to find someone to settle down with, while another may be simply trying to find someone to make their friend with benefits. Regardless of what type of intimate relationship you are looking for, you do not want to be vulgar on your profile. Not everyone is okay with speaking about sex openly, so you want to be careful with what you say when you are informing people of what type of relationship you were looking for online. Mentioning that you have a foot fetish is one thing, but going into grave detail about it is another.

Lie

It is never okay to make people believe something about you that is untrue. You may not necessarily be proud of certain facts about yourself, but you do not want to create an image of yourself that can easily be disproven within seconds of you meeting someone in person. When you write about yourself on your profile, discuss the positive things about yourself, but don’t be afraid to mention your flaws either. People like when someone is aware of what makes them special, but also what makes them human. No one is perfect, so if you go on and on about how great you are on your profile, it is likely that very few people will believe you anyway.

This suggestion goes for your photos as well. People think it is okay to lie and post photos of others and say that the picture is of them when it really isn’t. If there is anything that MTV’s Catfish has taught us all it’s that sooner or later you will be found out. It may not be this year or the next, but if you find someone you really like, the truth will have to be revealed if you want to carry out a real relationship. Avoid having to explain later and only post pictures of yourself.

Posts revealing photos

If you are really online looking for love, you do not want to post photos of yourself that are too revealing. Women often make the mistake of posting photos that reveal their cleavage, stomach and other parts of their body that people probably shouldn’t see until the second or third date, if not later. If you present yourself as if you are a piece of meat, that is how other online daters are going to treat you. It is best that you post tasteful photos of yourself that will make people want to know who you are and what is going on in your brain instead of your pants.

Talk too much about yourself

It is helpful for you to talk about yourself, seeing as how it is your profile and all. However, people want to know what you are looking for in a significant other. Ideally, you will want people to read your profile, get an idea of what you are looking for and determine if they are that person before they message you. People who are in no way a good fit for you may still contact you even though you’ve clearly stated what you want, but at least you didn’t fill your profile with three pages worth of information about yourself. Tell people about you, but don’t come off as a narcissist.

Online dating may be similar to dating in person, but there are also many differences. When people read your profile, you want them to fall in love with you, not block you after reading two lines. What you tell people about yourself is important because it affects who will contact you and whether or not you find the one you have been looking for all this time. Ultimately, you are going to put what you want on your profile, but do keep in mind that there are some things that do not need to be shared or mentioned on online.

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8 Tips For Making Your Dating Life Fun Again

Do you feel like you’re in a bit of a rut? Does your dating life feel more like a chore than  anything else? Are you having a hard time getting excited for dates these days? If you feel like you’re in a slump and you need to awaken things, then it’s time to put some fun back into your dating life again. Though you may feel resistant to this at first, you will find that dating can and should be fun!

The thing to remember is that sometimes you have to get a little outside of your comfort zone. You have to say yes to dates that you may have typically turned down, for you never know when an opportunity may arise. You have to go into each date with an open mind and let yourself live in that moment. Of course you always have to listen to your instinct, but if you can go in with a positive attitude and an open mind you may find love in a really great way.

If you want to enjoy dating again and find the right person, then here are some simple but effective ways to make dating fun again—and to hopefully find the best match in the process.

 

  1. Don’t say no to a potential opportunity: Though you may have said no in the past to a date that didn’t seem to fit you on paper, you just never know when a great thing may lie before you. Try saying yes to a potential date for it could lead to something great. See what happens and put yourself out there. Saying yes this one time could lead to something really great, and you never know until you try.

 

  1. Plan something slightly outside of your comfort zone: Try out rock climbing, a hike, or even a new exotic cuisine for a dinner date. Do something that’s a little outside of your comfort zone, simply because it might be a lot of fun. Be open to new ideas and try something you’ve never done before, as it may be an excellent bonding opportunity with the right person.

 

  1. Go in with a positive attitude and see how it changes things: Give yourself a little pep talk and prepare yourself for a positive date. Before each and every date make a conscious effort to go in with a positive attitude and see how much more enjoyable the date becomes. Even if it doesn’t end up being a long term match, try an attitude adjustment and see for yourself how much more fun you can have.

 

  1. Talk before hand to make your date more enjoyable and much less anxious: If you communicate before and after the date, it can take some of the anxiety out of things. Make it a point to chat over email, text, or the phone so that you get a chance to really know each other outside of the dating experience. Then when the date comes around you are much more comfortable around each other.

 

  1. Celebrate who you are and that will surely draw the right people in. Confidence instantly makes you more attractive. Be happy with who you are and this will draw the right person to you. It will make your dating life far more enjoyable and successful, and you get the added bonus of being happy with the person that you are too.

 

  1. Try a new dating avenue that you never considered before: This is your time to try new things so go speed dating, try a new online dating site, or go on a blind date if this is new to you. (Try TheCatch, of course!) Get outside of your own head and try a new dating avenue that you weren’t sure about before but are ready to embrace now. This could help you to finally meet the right person, and you may have a lot of fun along the way.

 

  1. Learn to laugh and go in without any assumptions or judgments: Allow yourself to enjoy yourself, to kick back, and to laugh a little bit. Go in without any preconceived notions and stay away from any judgments. Laugh more, worry less, and the dates are sure to be much more enjoyable.

 

  1. Put time into looking your best and then leave the rest up to your sparkling personality: There is something to be said for dressing up and looking your best, for then you are confident and truly your best. Do your part and then leave the rest up to being yourself, and you may find that your entire mindset changes. Helping yourself to look your best is great, and then it’s time to enjoy the date knowing that you can feel good about everything. See for yourself, for this is how to have fun and actually enjoy the dating process for once in your life!

How To Keep Yourself Safe

By Jamie McAfee

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We Teach People How to Treat Us
This may sound the most cliché statement that doesn’t really make sense, but let’s break it down. It basically means that the best time to lay down the law in the relationship is in the beginning. Successful couples know when they have stepped over the line and address it, instead of creating a boundary once someone has crossed it. Don’t be afraid to speak up. A respectful, solid person will respect your limits.

Actions Speak Louder Than Words
In relationships there are two things-what a person tells you and what a person shows you. If you’re just getting to know someone on the phone, through email, or from online dating you’re banking on words more than actions. The danger is that you can feel really close to someone who simply can’t live up to the description of themselves. The world is full of lazy, selfish people but who describes themselves as such? Spend some time observing what your romantic interest does. If you don’t like what you see, run for the hills.

Keep it Real
Fantasy is good and all but it can set you up for failure. Don’t come into the relationship with a hug sack of expectations. Someone can seem like your knight in shining armor only because you are wearing your knight in shining armor goggles. If someone seems too good to be true, they probably are. Stay sober literally and metaphorically so you can see who they really are.

Take it Slow
Real love takes time to grow. Let things progress slowly and naturally. You want to be apart of the relationship and its unfurling but you also what to be an objective observer noting quirks and habits about the person, and also how you feel when you’re around them. Safety is often an illusion and there’s no guarantee of it. Human beings can be pretty unpredictable. Be careful and take one step at a time.

Last, but not least…

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Trust in yourself that you’ll carefully select a good person. Trust in yourself that you’ll know when someone isn’t who they say they are. And trust in yourself that no matter what happens you will prevail!

 

Online Dating Dos and Don’ts

The world of dating can be brutal for those looking to settle down and build a life with someone. It is hard enough to find someone genuine and honest that you can trust, but when there are so many people out there, you never know what you will get. However, that doesn’t mean there is nothing you can do to help you weed out the bad ones. Whether you are dating online or meeting people in person, there are some things that are acceptable and others that you should completely steer clear of doing if you want to find that perfect person.

Here are some dos and don’ts for online dating!

 

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Don’t reveal too much about yourself

Not revealing too much about yourself is just as important online as it is when in person. Seeing as how pretty much all of the people you will run into online will be strangers, you don’t want to go giving out your address, phone number, social security and underwear size. It is okay for people to know things about you, but limit what you tell people about yourself, so they can’t use it against you in any way. Identities are stolen everyday and surely don’t want to be added to list of victims.

Do give people a good sense of who you are

When dating online, you want to give people a good sense of who you are and what you are looking for in a partner. Let people know your likes and dislikes, but focus on the positive qualities that you would like your partner to possess. You also want to clearly explain the type of person you are when in a relationship. Are you romantic? Are you mushy and show your appreciation for your partner any chance you get? What are your good qualities?

Don’t lie about important things

Adding an inch or two to your height or saying that you have blue eyes when they are actually dark brown are fairly small lies that people may be able to get over easily should you meet anyone in person. It’s the big lies about important things that will cause problems. Working as a busser at an upscale restaurant does not mean you are a professional chef online, so be honest. If you and another person hit if off, they are eventually going to find out what you really do for a living.

Do share what makes you unique

Everyone has one or two qualities about them that makes them stand out from others on the dating scene. If it is not anything too weird or outrageous, you will want to add it to your profile. Again, don’t lie or exaggerate about anything. Just be who you are and someone will be accepting of that.

Don’t use another person’s pictures

“Catfishing” seems to be a thing nowadays, but some people are online really looking for love, so don’t use pictures that aren’t of you. Everyone has their flaws, but that doesn’t mean it is okay to make people believe that you are someone else. Even if you aren’t photogenic or don’t feel that you are the most attractive person around, stick to posting pictures of yourself.

Do choose pictures that show off your best assets

Maybe you have big green eyes or long, silky locks. Whatever your best asset is, don’t be afraid to flaunt it. However, you want to keep things PG and not flaunt certain assets too much. You want to get attention from people because of your personality, not simply because of how you look.

Don’t fill your profile with random facts about yourself

Yes, you want people to know what type of person you are, but you don’t want to fill your profile with random facts about yourself. You want to make sure everything makes sense and flows, so people won’t get lost and confused about what type of person who are or what message you are trying to convey.

Do check your spelling

Not everyone is a great speller, but everyone has spell check on their computer, so spelling errors just shouldn’t exist on your profile. If you aren’t sure how to spell something, take the time to look it up. Some people really do care if a person can spell, so be careful what you say and how you spell it.

Don’t be too trusting of the people who contact you

You never know what a person’s motive may be when they contact you online, which means you have to be careful who you speak to and what you say to them. If you don’t feel comfortable responding, then don’t. You wouldn’t talk to any random person walking down the street, so you have to be just as selective when dating online. Not everyone deserves your time and attention, especially if they want something different than you.

Do keep conversations light

People often make the mistake of getting too serious too quickly when they are dating online. It is understandable that you don’t want to waste your time and feel the need to ask the tough questions early on, but you are trying to find a life partner and certain subjects shouldn’t be discussed in the early stages if you don’t want to scare them off. You are getting to know each other, but limit how deep your conversations are until you know each other better. Keep things light, fun and easy. Save the heavy stuff for later.

Everyone is different, so just because you decide to put certain things on your profile doesn’t necessarily mean that no one will be interested in you. However, you do want to present yourself in a way that will increase your chances of being noticed and landing a date in person. This is something that you would do in person if you were out at the bar with friends, so it is really no different when dating online. Stay positive, adhere to the dos and don’ts and chances are you will get several people reaching out to you online.

Step Your Profile Game Up!

PICTURES

Pictures Not of You: WHY! Posting some scenery picture is not going to persuade anyone to swipe right on your pic.

Full body shots: Post at least one! You don’t have to be wearing a swimsuit, but show people what you look like. Be proud of yourself!

Your Face: We need to see your face clearly. Take off the helmet!

Selfies: Maaybe one is okay. But if all your pictures are selfies, we’re going to assume you spend waaay too much free time taking selfies.

Group Pics: WHICH ONE ARE YOU! Also don’t post a pic with your friend that’s hotter or for guys, taller.

Things to Avoid: Babies or cars that aren’t yours!

 

ABOUT ME

Keep it simple, stupid!

Please check your spelling and don’t write a novel.

If you don’t know what to write, throw in your favorite emoji or social media accounts.

 

PREFERENCES

Women are pickiest about height and men are most picky about age. If you’re a girl and only want to date someone 6 feet or taller, do not be surprised when you don’t have a lot of matches. That’s less than 15% of the U.S. population! Be open-minded and have fun with it! You never know who you’re going to meet!

 

PRESENCE – BE ACTIVE! 

Ladies: Start games! You can ask whatever questions you want. Have fun with it!

Men: View every game invite. Our back-end algorithm prioritizes users who are logging in regularly.

Don’t want to take our word for it? Take a look at another article here

New Features Added

Thanks to the current beta testers and the feedback,  we listened!

The Catch is excited to announce two new features this week:

1. Profile Page Enhancements.  

Now users can upload multiple pictures and more detailed info is now provided for both female/male users.

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2.  Faster Games!  24 Hour Games.

Rounds have been shortened, you can now answer all 3 questions within 24 hours,  getting to your Catch much faster so you can start planning that date!

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Happy Dating,

The Catch Team

The Catch launches its beta in San Francisco!

We’re excited to announce that The Catch has officially launched it’s beta in San Francisco! We truly believe in creating a safe and playful way to meet someone online.

The Catch is a female-centric dating app that provides a safe space for women to screen men. It’s a unique game in which one woman invites a small group of men to compete for a date. Through successive question and answer rounds, the woman narrows the pool of male contestants based on her satisfaction with their replies. The male contestant with the most compatible responses earns an in-person date.

Women enjoy freedom and privacy – they ask questions that matter while remaining invisible to men whom they are not interested in. For their part, men are eager to compete because they have a one-in-four chance in lieu of sending out a hundred messages.

Our mission was to bring flirty back, it’s about a unique way of connecting with people, its not about what school you go to or what job you have, it is designed to enable serendipity, stop focusing only looks and start looking into other interesting things like personality and chemistry.

What Women Want, Top Questions Women Ask

Finally, the data men have all been waiting for: what do women really want to know on a first date?
QuestionPie2During The Catch’s private beta testing, we allowed our users to choose between asking questions from our own categorized database or inputing their own.
Graph on the left shows that while many went for similar preset questions from our categories (represented by the larger circles), the majority chose to input their own unique questions (represented by the smaller circles).

Below are the top questions by category. Men, take note!

Questions Created by our Users

Question Created by our Users

  • If your life can be summed up by a movie title, what would it be called?
  • What is your drink of choice?
  • It’s the apocalypse. All that remains of the world is you and the SF zoo. Which animal do you eat first and why?
  • List three of the most gentlemanly things you’ve ever done for a woman.
  • You have to plan a date but do it without spending any money. What would you do?

Category: Lifestyle

Lifestyle

  • Describe your ideal Sunday.
  • What kinds of things really make you laugh?

Category: Fun

Fun

  • What did you dress up as for Halloween last year?
  • What is your favorite superpower?

Category: Interest

Common Interests

  • If you could take a vacation anywhere, where would you go and why?
  • Where would you take me on our first date?

Category: Family

Family

  • Describe your dream house.
  • Are you close with your parents? Why or why not?

Category: Culture

Culture

  • Tell me about your favorite American city.
  • Describe the strangest place you’ve ever visited.

Category: Food

Food

  • What is your favorite brunch spot in the city?
  • What is your favorite food?