Reasons For No Second Date

Dating today definitely has its challenges. With so many options, many men and women experience the one and done date time and time again. It can be difficult to land that second date and make an incredible impression! Many of you have experienced an incredible date where you felt it was amazing, filled with chemistry….and then crickets. No call. No text. Not a word. There are very possible reasons why this happens. You spend hours analyzing why they didn’t contact you. Below, are the top reasons why a second date may not happen.

  • Not being real and coming across fake

Everyone wants to be on their best behavior on a first date, but there is huge difference from being real and authentic to having to be perfect and amazing at everything. People appreciate flaws, being down to earth, and most importantly, just being yourself

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  • Being Too Real

Everyone appreciates realness and honesty, however, some people can over do it. Airing your dirty laundry, skeletons in your closet, and sharing way too much all at once, is not well received. It is too much for one to take in. Keeping it light and fun is key.

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  • Only Talking About Yourself

When you can’t stop talking about yourself and make yourself the center of all conversation, your date loses interest. You may find them with a blank stare not even paying attention to what you are saying. Keep the conversation going back and forth. Ask questions. Be engaged with each other.

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  • Poor Hygiene

You don’t have to be perfect and dressed to the nines. However, not representing yourself in the best light, has its consequences. We all notice if a man or woman comes to a date looking sloppy, wearing a dirty shirt, messy hair, and not smelling up to par. When you ate a garlic tuna sandwich for lunch as one can guess, not a good look. Point made.

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  • Awful Conversation Topics

When you go on and on about your ex. Your date doesn’t want to hear it. Not only is it uncomfortable, we don’t care. Sorry. We want to know you, not your past relationship. Talking about politics is a recipe for disaster. Stay away from topics that will possibly cause an argument. You want fun, light, and happy conversation. The date should be fun, after all.

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Follow these tips and you will be well on your way to finding love and experiencing more and more quality dates.

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Reasons Men Play Games

You just had an amazing 4th date with your dream man! The date was filled with chemistry, laughter, joy, and romance.  You felt it was going in such a promising direction. He seemed 100% all in and was on the relationship train. All of a sudden… he disappears. Nothing. No call. No text. Just radio silence.  Finally, you decide to cave and send a follow up text. Hours go by and then finally….a half hearted response. Searching for answers, you are left analyzing. Why the game playing? Why the mix of emotions? All women have experienced this. Below are some possible reasons to help make sense of why this happens.

  • Some women love it

Some women actually love the unpredictability and chase. They love the thrill of the unknown and excitement it can create.

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  • Fear of Committing

Some men who are so hot and cold, are actually not ready for a relationship. They are not 100% ready to commit and are not fully available to go all in. Past heartache, job struggles, self worth issues, all keep men at times from taking the risk for love.

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  • Ladies Man

Some men just can’t get enough of the ladies! They have a wondering eye and just have zero desire for something real and serious. They might say that they do, but they just love having so many options. Nothing personal, but they can’t seem to really be devoted to one special woman.

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When this happens, walk away. Put your energy into men that are on the same page as you. There are thousands of single men. With a population of 50% being single, there is no need to tolerate behavior such as this.  Stay aware of these signs and you will find quality men looking to create an epic love, while eliminating those who don’t.

Flirting Tips

How to be a good flirt. Flirting is actually a very important part of dating. It is not rocket science, but there are some flirting strategies that you can implement to make your dating life more successful. It is essential in dating because it lets the other person know you are interested without directly saying so. Flirting can make you come off like a stage 5 clinger when done wrong. There is a definite fine line. The tips below will have you be a flirting pro whether in person or online!

  • Maintain eye contact

Eye contact is so important! Don’t stare like a creep, but casually glance over and give a smile

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  • Smile

Smiling is not only sexy, but a few glances and a big smile, gives a clear sign that you are interested in talking and being approached. Don’t be afraid to show your pearly whites!

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  • Soft touch

Touching someone’s arm when speaking is a clear sign of interest. It is sure tell way that you like the person and that attraction is there.

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  • Compliment

Who doesn’t like a sincere and sweet compliment? Try complimenting someone’s eyes, smile, outfit, etc. This is always an excellent way to flirt, but in a non sexual way

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Next time you are out and about and spot that cutie you would love to talk to, try one or two of these tips! It will be well received and could lead to something incredible. You can take it a step further by exchanging numbers. Who knows, you could be on your way to a new and amazing romance that started with just a simple smile.

Online Dating Profile Tips

Online dating can be a challenge in itself. Constantly swiping and scrolling through thousands of profiles. You want to stand out and be noticed. You want to be different than all the rest. Lets get real. No one is swiping right for a blurry pic, a shirtless mirror selfie, or a frat boy slamming a beer. Attractive? I think not. The tips below will have you shine like a diamond, attracting high quality matches, that could just be your catch.

 

  • Get Professional Pictures

Investing in some creative and professional shots will do wonders for you! They look amazing, are eye catching, and will get you noticed. Just think, a stellar photo or some circa 1999 photo that you randomly found buried in your facebook. Yea, point made.

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  • Clear, flattering photos where you are wearing a smile!

Smile!! Big, big smile!! Everyone is attracted to happiness, carefreeness, and a beautiful light energy. Nothing conveys this more than a beautiful smile. Don’t post pictures of an angry face or duck lips. So not a good look.

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  • Show your personality

Display yourself doing something you love! Whether it is hiking, the beach, a picnic, a sport, etc; this is eye catching and gives an idea of what you are like!

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  • Full body and face shots

Always include 2 full body pictures and two solo pictures of yourself. Show yourself off! Choose flattering angles and lighting to really let yourself shine.

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Follow these simple tips and you will be well on your way to online dating success and having more matches than you know what to do with!

Best Dating Tips

Best dating tips!

Now is the best time for love! With 50% of the population being single, your chances for love are in your favor. Dating in general can be scary for some. Putting yourself out there, fearing rejection, and some having to go on countless dates. Dating doesn’t have to be a dreadful experience! It can be fun, liberating, and successful. With the right attitude and some minor adjustments, Love is much closer than you think. Below are some tips to have you have the best first date and improve your luck!

 

 

  • Be confident and get your mind right. You are worthy

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  • Be Yourself. Getting out of your head and being authentic is key

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  • Smile and be happy! No one likes a negative Nelly
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  • Laugh and have fun. Don’t take things so seriously. There is no fun in that.

 

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  • Choose a great date location. A fun lively vibe is a great choice.

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  • Dress to impress. Show up in something flattering, comfortable, and that really shows who you are

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  • Stay away from unpleasant topics. Enough said.

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  • Ask questions and lean in. Be curious and open

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  • Stay tuned for future posts on more tips and advice 💗

 

 

The 8 Best Ways To Secure a Second Date

The 8 Best Ways To Secure a Second Date

When you go into that first date it may feel as though your nerves truly get the best of you. Though you want to impress this person, you may feel overwhelmed by concern about how you will across and how things will go. This is a great time to take a deep breath and really let your true self-shine through. If you want to get to that second date then you have to be ready for where the night takes you, and ultimately be yourself so that they see what you are all about.

This, of course, takes confidence, but it also means that you have to be open-minded to the possibilities. Though this may not necessarily be the match that you dreamed of on paper, you never know how things can go. If you can stay positive, live in the moment, and really enjoy the time that you spend with this person on the first date then things may go better than you might think. The first date can be an excellent platform for the second date—and here are the tips to help you to win them over and secure that second date to really see where things go!

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  1.    Use the power of body language to show interest: This doesn’t mean that you are promiscuous but it just means that you embrace the power of flirting and some well placed body language to win them over. Smile at them, make eye contact, stand with your body open without arms crossed—these are the types of things that show them that you are interested without saying a word! Body language is a very powerful tool in showing this person that you are intriguing and that you are interested in them for more than just this first meeting.
  2.    Be yourself and show confidence: One of the most attractive traits is confidence, so get in touch with your own and let it shine through. This is not a time to pretend, but rather just be yourself and own what that means. When they see that you are confident about the person that you are, then they can’t help but be interested in learning more about you. There is something more to learn and your confidence shows them that you have got it going on, so they want to be a part of that.
  3.    Go in with an open mind and a positive mindset: You never know when this person that you meet could turn into something really great in your life. Don’t shoot yourself down before the date even starts, but rather go in with an open mind. Being positive makes you more attractive and when you see what possibilities may come out of this first date, you may allow yourself to get to the second date when you normally would have never considered it.
  4.    Listen as much as you talk: There should be a good back and forth type of conversation going on in this first date to get to the second one. Be sure that you share details about yourself, but also be ready and willing to listen to them too. When you can find that good balance then good things happen. Be conscious of the ability to talk as much as you listen and vice versa, for good conversation is the key to a second date!
  5.    Have fun and look at this as an opportunity: Stop worrying about what may come and just have fun on the first date. If you want a second date then you need to see this for what it is, and that’s an opportunity. Enjoy yourself, have fun, laugh a little, and see what may come. When you can just have fun it’s very attractive and makes the other person want to see you again with certainty.
  6.    Do something fun together that allows the two of you to talk: Do keep in mind that whatever you do together on that first date makes a difference if you will get to a second date or not. Try to plan something fun together like a picnic at the park or grabbing coffee that ensures that you can enjoy each other’s company. If you want to get the second date then the environment on that first date and your ability to get to know each other matters greatly.
  7.    Leave something to the imagination—a little mystery can go a long way: Though you want to be forthcoming you also want to leave something to the imagination. A little bit of mystery can help to keep them intrigued. This means that you don’t put all your cards out on the table and you leave something for them to get to know about you on future dates to come.
  8.    Focus on the present and this person before you: Stop worrying about the future and never focus on the past—just focus on the present and this person sitting before you! There can be great things to come if you just put yourself into the current situation and stop worrying about what may or may not come to be. This isn’t always easy but if you can just live in this moment and focus on what is happening in the first date, then that second date will be much more likely to come and then you can enjoy what lies ahead from there!

 

Boring Men Never Become Less Boring

My girlfriend has been dating this guy for a few months and so I hear a lot about their relationship. They have been dating and there are times when she finds him boring. Super nice guy and everything but she has been moved to tears by boredom. I’ve often asked her why she continues to stay with him if talking to a pole can at times bring about deeper conversations. Her reasoning is that she’s hoping she can spark some excitement into him making him the perfect man. I disagree. I don’t believe that a boring man can suddenly become less boring, I think he’s boring for a reason; that’s why these men always end up in the friend zone. I myself have dated the boring man so I feel like I’ve done extensive research on the subject. There are undeniable traits of a boring man, and here they are:  

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  1. They Don’t Mind Waiting

The problem with boring men is they don’t feel their time is valuable and they will prove it to you. How this works from a dating standpoint is simple. These are the guys that take forever to ask a girl out, or who will spend too much time on a woman who isn’t even interested.

  1. They Expect Something For Being Nice

These are the guys that don’t understand why a girl is not falling in love with him because he is “so nice” to her. What boring guys don’t seem to get is that everyone is nice. That doesn’t mean that it makes them immediately dateable.  A nice guy is not reason enough to date someone. There are no extra points for being nice, guys! It’s called being human.

  1. When Life Isn’t Fair They Get Upset

When the going gets tough these guys can’t handle the pressure; they will pout, whine and moan when life doesn’t go their way. Someone who is exciting and self-possessed won’t behave in this manner. They will roll up their sleeves and get the job done, no matter what life throws at them. Don’t date a guy with a victim mentality.

  1. They Are Gentle Towards Women

Boring men handle the women they are interested in with kid gloves. The sexy men will be aggressive and go after what they want while a boring guy will be overly friendly, soft and gentle so that he can show us what a harmless man he is. You know the guy in your office who everyone says would never hurt a fly? That’s the boring guy. These men are worried they will scare us off if they don’t appear unintimidating.

They exhibit behaviors such as:

  • They will always follow a joke or flirt with “didn’t mean it.”
  • They will laugh nervously and smile a lot
  • Overly chumming, hugging women or hi-fiving them, overly excited when they greet them, and letting women vent to them.
  1. They Have No Interests or Passions Of Their Own

Most sexy and exciting men have lives of their own. They are either involved in sports or going to the gym, always competing against other men to be the best. A boring and unsexy man will have a lack of passion. There are men out there that have no drive to be the best and nothing to

A man with passion is very attractive to a woman because she wants to be close to the fire that is burning inside of him. A boring man doesn’t strive for anything and is fine with the status quo which a woman can find boring especially if she is ambitious.
These are just a few of the qualities that you can look out for when jumping head first into the dating game. Keep a look out for the boring man and don’t waste your time trying to change him. Boring men will always be boring.

New Features Added

Thanks to the current beta testers and the feedback,  we listened!

The Catch is excited to announce two new features this week:

1. Profile Page Enhancements.  

Now users can upload multiple pictures and more detailed info is now provided for both female/male users.

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2.  Faster Games!  24 Hour Games.

Rounds have been shortened, you can now answer all 3 questions within 24 hours,  getting to your Catch much faster so you can start planning that date!

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Happy Dating,

The Catch Team

The Catch launches its beta in San Francisco!

We’re excited to announce that The Catch has officially launched it’s beta in San Francisco! We truly believe in creating a safe and playful way to meet someone online.

The Catch is a female-centric dating app that provides a safe space for women to screen men. It’s a unique game in which one woman invites a small group of men to compete for a date. Through successive question and answer rounds, the woman narrows the pool of male contestants based on her satisfaction with their replies. The male contestant with the most compatible responses earns an in-person date.

Women enjoy freedom and privacy – they ask questions that matter while remaining invisible to men whom they are not interested in. For their part, men are eager to compete because they have a one-in-four chance in lieu of sending out a hundred messages.

Our mission was to bring flirty back, it’s about a unique way of connecting with people, its not about what school you go to or what job you have, it is designed to enable serendipity, stop focusing only looks and start looking into other interesting things like personality and chemistry.

What Women Want, Top Questions Women Ask

Finally, the data men have all been waiting for: what do women really want to know on a first date?
QuestionPie2During The Catch’s private beta testing, we allowed our users to choose between asking questions from our own categorized database or inputing their own.
Graph on the left shows that while many went for similar preset questions from our categories (represented by the larger circles), the majority chose to input their own unique questions (represented by the smaller circles).

Below are the top questions by category. Men, take note!

Questions Created by our Users

Question Created by our Users

  • If your life can be summed up by a movie title, what would it be called?
  • What is your drink of choice?
  • It’s the apocalypse. All that remains of the world is you and the SF zoo. Which animal do you eat first and why?
  • List three of the most gentlemanly things you’ve ever done for a woman.
  • You have to plan a date but do it without spending any money. What would you do?

Category: Lifestyle

Lifestyle

  • Describe your ideal Sunday.
  • What kinds of things really make you laugh?

Category: Fun

Fun

  • What did you dress up as for Halloween last year?
  • What is your favorite superpower?

Category: Interest

Common Interests

  • If you could take a vacation anywhere, where would you go and why?
  • Where would you take me on our first date?

Category: Family

Family

  • Describe your dream house.
  • Are you close with your parents? Why or why not?

Category: Culture

Culture

  • Tell me about your favorite American city.
  • Describe the strangest place you’ve ever visited.

Category: Food

Food

  • What is your favorite brunch spot in the city?
  • What is your favorite food?