Am I Too Picky?

Am I too picky? Im sure you have asked yourself that question, one too many times! Seeing love all around you, the holidays are quickly approaching, engagements seeming to be everywhere…why am I single? Am I really that picky? Is a man with a full head of hair and teeth too much to ask for?!

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On a serious note, no, you are not too picky. In fact, I can’t stand that question. It is 100% ok to have preferences, standards, and to set the bar high. We are talking about a life partner, right? Having standards that are realistic is what matters. If you have to have a supermodel that has perfectly white teeth, a shredded body, and millions in the bank, then maybe you need to reevaluate.

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You are not perfect, therefore, you can’t expect perfection. I always recommend, choose two physical characteristics that really stand out to you. If you like a tall man, focus on height and one more quality. Choose 5 non negotiable inner qualities that you want in a partner. Focus on these traits. Embody these traits! If you want someone who is kind, generous, loving, active.. you need to be all of the things too! Focus on becoming the best version of yourself.

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Knowing what you want is so important, while staying open to possibilities. Maybe your guy is 5’11 instead of 6 feet but hilarious and has the best smile. You can live with that, right?  So, stay open, have fun in the process, and love will soon be tapping you on the shoulder.

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Love Vs Fear

Are you struggling being single? Do you feel that you put in a ton of effort but still have no dates, no men, no NOTHING? It is not that you are meant to be single, called to be single, or that the world is holding out on you. In fact, you are meant to have love! It is for you. It is your birthright. So, if you are looking for a sign, this is your sign. Love is just around the corner. It is about choosing love, being love, and most importantly, believing in love. Follow these tips below, and claim the love that is waiting for you!

  • In all moments, realize you can choose love or fear. Fear is the most common problem when single. Your ego tells you that you can’t have love, that maybe it is not meant for you, that there are no quality men or women, etc, etc. You in those moments of fear based thoughts, can choose love! See yourself as love and it will be here before you know it!

 

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  • Love is not just for the special people. Love is for all! Remember that no one is more deserving for a soulmate. We all are! In times of doubt, remember that you are negatively special

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  • Believe. You truly have to believe that your love desire and yearning for a partner is the truth! Keep deciding that love is for you and I promise, it will be

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Fear is the biggest problem with singles today. We are so consumed with thoughts that just are not the truth. If you keep focusing on love and becoming love, your love life will start to shift. It is all about your mindset and setting an intention.

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How To Be Irresistible To Men

Ever wonder how some women have men just flock and swoon over them with little to no effort? You see that girl with men always surrounding her or just worshipping the ground she walks on? You sit back and think, ” what does she have that I don’t?” First of all, it is your energy. A light, carefree, unattached, beautiful energy about yourself. It starts from within. It actually has nothing to do with your physical appearance. Men feel that carefree and light hearted nature. Not a desperate, oh my God, you need to pick me, energy. Some tips below will help you be a man magnet and get you the love that you deserve.

  • Confidence and eye contact

Confidence is so important and incredibly attractive to a man. Men love a woman who knows who she is and what she wants. Eye contact shows a man that you are approachable. Hold eye contact for 5 seconds ( yes, seems like an eternity) and flash a smile. He will be sure to come up to you.

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  • Sexiness Not Desperate

Not appearing too desperate or needy is very attractive to men. They do not want you to call or text a million times. They are attracted to a woman who is strong, independent, and has a life of her own.

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  • Humor

Women are not  the only ones who love to laugh! Men can’t help but find a funny woman irresistible. Funny, smart, beautiful? Men just can’t help but swoon. Wit and a great sense of humor out weigh any physical attractive trait.

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  • Up beat attitude

A bright outlook is such a sexy trait. Men find it to be refreshing and addicting to be around. Who likes a bleak personality? Ummm, no one. Smile, be carefree, and exude a loving disposition, and any man will fall for you.

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Follow these tips and you will be well on your way to finding that special someone!

Fashion Tips For Men

Fashion Tips for Men

 

Fellas! Time to bring your A game to dates. Not just your charm, but how you dress. Women love a man with style and swagger, so check your closet and yourself 😉 Here are some tips that will definitely impress your date and have you on the road to dating success

 

  • Invest in some awesome jeans and killer shoes. Women appreciate style and class. In the words of George Michael, Sometimes the clothes do make the manMan in Black Leather Zip-up Jacket and Black Jeans Wearing Black Sunglasses
  • A nice watch. A sleek and effortless fashion statement

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  • A leather wallet. Investing in a trendy and timeless wallet is key. No woman wants to see a beaten up piece of velcro. You feel me?

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  • A well fitted button up shirt. Women appreciate a tailored man that puts in effort. This is a perfect go to!

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  • A Polo- who doesn’t love a preppy guy?!

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  • Cologne- women swoon over a man that smells amazing. Invest in a masculine and powerful scent. This will make any woman weak in the knees

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  • Lastly, exude confidence. 41% of women find this to be the most attractive trait

 

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Follow these tips and you will be one step closer to the love you seek!

 

Deal Killers For a First Date

Sometimes you really only get one shot with a date. That dream girl or dream guy. They say, you only have one chance to make a first impression. This stands true! As nerve wracking as dating is in general, it is important to put your best foot forward and be prepared to really be the best version of yourself. Sometimes, there is not second chance. You can’t turn back time and redo things that you once did on your date. Soooo… be prepared and go into a date with a positive attitude and most importantly, a big smile. Follow the tips below and your first impression will be a lasting one.

  • Be Positive

Stay away from negative and heavy topics.  No one wants to hear about your horrific ex, how catastrophic dating is, how you hate your job, boss, life, car..blah blah,blah. Check Please!

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  • Don’t bring up future dates with other people

This is a huge turn off. No one wants to hear about the 5 or 6 other potentials you are juggling. Not a good look. Your date does not want to feel like just a number. Plus, no need to talk about it. If it goes well, you may not need to go out with others!

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  • Checking your phone

Ahhh! This is the worst. 60% of people consider this to be deal breaker. This is not challenging to understand. Your date wants your full attention and for you to be present. You don’t want to appear disinterested and that your phone addiction is real.

  • Don’t Get Drunk

This seems like an obvious one, but throwing back several drinks to calm the nerves, is not the best choice. Stick to a two drink maximum. You do not want to embarrass yourself and get sloppy drunk. That will guarantee not being asked out again. Not the goal, right?

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  • Wearing a lame t-shirt or sloppy outfit

It is important to dress to impress. Men, Ed Hardy is over. No graphic tees, please! Show up in something that shows confidence and effort. Ladies, show up in something that is feminine and exudes your beauty.  No potato sacks or baggy tees. Trust me on this.

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These tips will make your dating life successful and have you get a second, third, and fourth date! Maybe even that awesome relationship you want 😉

Signs A Man Is Ready To Commit

I bet there are sooo many women who have found themselves dating ” the unavailable man, Mr. Peter Pan, and the ultimate commitment phobe, who just can’t seem to pull the trigger. We all have been there! However, there are signs to pay attention to in order to know if you are dealing with the right type of men that you are wanting to attract into your life. Below are some tips to stay aware of when trying to find that diamond in the ruff.

  • Know his intention

Men who just want to “hang out” or ” are just looking to meet new friends” These terms all indicate a man that may not be on the relationship seeking path. When men use terms such as “date” it shows commitment and planning. No man who is ready for love will be afraid to use the word “date.”

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  • Reliable

Pay attention if a man gives you notice. If a man texts you an hour before asking you out, it may show signs of not being serious. If he gives plenty of notice and puts thought into the day and time, then that is something to really pay attention to because he is committed and showing follow through. It shows he values your time and whether or not you are a priority in his life

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  • Communication

You had an amazing date! It was so much fun and the night seemed just perfect. Then….crickets… not a word! This can mean more than you think. He is either not serious about finding a serious relationship or just simply, he is just not that into you.

 

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  • Exclusive Time

When a man makes time for you and only you, that is a great sign of a man seeking a commitment. He wants to get to know you on an emotional and deeper level. He is not in a rush for physicality, but establishing a foundation that will lead to love.

What Men Really Need From Women

What do men really need in a relationship and from their partner? It may not be exactly what you think! It is much more complicated than one would imagine. Every man is different and therefore has different wants and needs. Our culture is continuing to change and so are relationships. Relationships can be so complicated and are never the same day to day. The following tips will help guide you and create awareness to understanding your partner on a deeper level.

  • Having a warm and open heart

Men at times, have difficulty sharing their feelings, emotions, wants, needs, and fears. More than anything, they want a woman who they can be vulnerable with. They want a partner that they can share their deepest layer with. Someone whose heart is open to listen and be receptive.

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  • Time

Men love women who are good listeners and give them their time. Men will shut down if you do not make the time to listen to them or time for them in general. They need undivided and uninterrupted time spent. Men need this in order to really express who they are. Being positive and creating an upbeat space, really draws your man closer.

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  • Respect

All people want respect. For men, this is huge! Men are always wanting to be appreciated and feel valued. They want to be encouraged and feel you are always rooting for them.

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  • Freedom

Men want space and time for themselves. They don’t want to feel they are on a leash 24/7. They want to enjoy their hobbies, interests, and friends. Respecting their time and space, will definitely make your relationship last.

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  • Being Yourself

Men love when you are just being you! Not pretending or trying so hard to be the ideal woman. They just want you to be your true self and no one else.

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  • Attraction

Men and women need to be attracted to their partner. This is so important and crucial. Without this, there is no foundation for a romantic connection.

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Approaching Someone in Real Life

Approaching a Man or Woman

 

The thought of meeting someone in real life has become such a rarity due to technology taking over! Everyone is so consumed by their smart phone that we all forget what it is like to actually approach someone. Gasp! Saying hello has become so hard! It doesn’t have to be. We live in a big world with single people everywhere! Follow these tips and the cute guy or girl you see at Starbucks, may just be your next love.

 

  • Smile and Make Eye Contact

Man or woman- give a sweet smile and hold eye contact for 5 seconds. Seems like forever but it gives the signal that you are approachable and interested!

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  • Walk up and introduce yourself.

Seems simple enough! You can start by saying, “ Excuse me..” No one really remembers how you started the conversation anyway

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  • Be confident

Show confidence and avoid hesitation. Everyone responds to confidence and security. There is nothing more attractive then a person who knows who they are and is proud of it

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  • Be Bold

Ask them out! Get the digits. Go for it! The time is now to take a chance. Big risk, Big reward

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Follow these tips when you are out and about. Real life encounters open an entire dating pool that is untouched. You would be surprised how many awesome people you can meet

Reasons For No Second Date

Dating today definitely has its challenges. With so many options, many men and women experience the one and done date time and time again. It can be difficult to land that second date and make an incredible impression! Many of you have experienced an incredible date where you felt it was amazing, filled with chemistry….and then crickets. No call. No text. Not a word. There are very possible reasons why this happens. You spend hours analyzing why they didn’t contact you. Below, are the top reasons why a second date may not happen.

  • Not being real and coming across fake

Everyone wants to be on their best behavior on a first date, but there is huge difference from being real and authentic to having to be perfect and amazing at everything. People appreciate flaws, being down to earth, and most importantly, just being yourself

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  • Being Too Real

Everyone appreciates realness and honesty, however, some people can over do it. Airing your dirty laundry, skeletons in your closet, and sharing way too much all at once, is not well received. It is too much for one to take in. Keeping it light and fun is key.

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  • Only Talking About Yourself

When you can’t stop talking about yourself and make yourself the center of all conversation, your date loses interest. You may find them with a blank stare not even paying attention to what you are saying. Keep the conversation going back and forth. Ask questions. Be engaged with each other.

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  • Poor Hygiene

You don’t have to be perfect and dressed to the nines. However, not representing yourself in the best light, has its consequences. We all notice if a man or woman comes to a date looking sloppy, wearing a dirty shirt, messy hair, and not smelling up to par. When you ate a garlic tuna sandwich for lunch as one can guess, not a good look. Point made.

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  • Awful Conversation Topics

When you go on and on about your ex. Your date doesn’t want to hear it. Not only is it uncomfortable, we don’t care. Sorry. We want to know you, not your past relationship. Talking about politics is a recipe for disaster. Stay away from topics that will possibly cause an argument. You want fun, light, and happy conversation. The date should be fun, after all.

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Follow these tips and you will be well on your way to finding love and experiencing more and more quality dates.

Reasons Men Play Games

You just had an amazing 4th date with your dream man! The date was filled with chemistry, laughter, joy, and romance.  You felt it was going in such a promising direction. He seemed 100% all in and was on the relationship train. All of a sudden… he disappears. Nothing. No call. No text. Just radio silence.  Finally, you decide to cave and send a follow up text. Hours go by and then finally….a half hearted response. Searching for answers, you are left analyzing. Why the game playing? Why the mix of emotions? All women have experienced this. Below are some possible reasons to help make sense of why this happens.

  • Some women love it

Some women actually love the unpredictability and chase. They love the thrill of the unknown and excitement it can create.

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  • Fear of Committing

Some men who are so hot and cold, are actually not ready for a relationship. They are not 100% ready to commit and are not fully available to go all in. Past heartache, job struggles, self worth issues, all keep men at times from taking the risk for love.

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  • Ladies Man

Some men just can’t get enough of the ladies! They have a wondering eye and just have zero desire for something real and serious. They might say that they do, but they just love having so many options. Nothing personal, but they can’t seem to really be devoted to one special woman.

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When this happens, walk away. Put your energy into men that are on the same page as you. There are thousands of single men. With a population of 50% being single, there is no need to tolerate behavior such as this.  Stay aware of these signs and you will find quality men looking to create an epic love, while eliminating those who don’t.