I bet there are sooo many women who have found themselves dating ” the unavailable man, Mr. Peter Pan, and the ultimate commitment phobe, who just can’t seem to pull the trigger. We all have been there! However, there are signs to pay attention to in order to know if you are dealing with the right type of men that you are wanting to attract into your life. Below are some tips to stay aware of when trying to find that diamond in the ruff.
Know his intention
Men who just want to “hang out” or ” are just looking to meet new friends” These terms all indicate a man that may not be on the relationship seeking path. When men use terms such as “date” it shows commitment and planning. No man who is ready for love will be afraid to use the word “date.”
Pay attention if a man gives you notice. If a man texts you an hour before asking you out, it may show signs of not being serious. If he gives plenty of notice and puts thought into the day and time, then that is something to really pay attention to because he is committed and showing follow through. It shows he values your time and whether or not you are a priority in his life
You had an amazing date! It was so much fun and the night seemed just perfect. Then….crickets… not a word! This can mean more than you think. He is either not serious about finding a serious relationship or just simply, he is just not that into you.
When a man makes time for you and only you, that is a great sign of a man seeking a commitment. He wants to get to know you on an emotional and deeper level. He is not in a rush for physicality, but establishing a foundation that will lead to love.
You just had an amazing 4th date with your dream man! The date was filled with chemistry, laughter, joy, and romance. You felt it was going in such a promising direction. He seemed 100% all in and was on the relationship train. All of a sudden… he disappears. Nothing. No call. No text. Just radio silence. Finally, you decide to cave and send a follow up text. Hours go by and then finally….a half hearted response. Searching for answers, you are left analyzing. Why the game playing? Why the mix of emotions? All women have experienced this. Below are some possible reasons to help make sense of why this happens.
Some women love it
Some women actually love the unpredictability and chase. They love the thrill of the unknown and excitement it can create.
Fear of Committing
Some men who are so hot and cold, are actually not ready for a relationship. They are not 100% ready to commit and are not fully available to go all in. Past heartache, job struggles, self worth issues, all keep men at times from taking the risk for love.
Some men just can’t get enough of the ladies! They have a wondering eye and just have zero desire for something real and serious. They might say that they do, but they just love having so many options. Nothing personal, but they can’t seem to really be devoted to one special woman.
When this happens, walk away. Put your energy into men that are on the same page as you. There are thousands of single men. With a population of 50% being single, there is no need to tolerate behavior such as this. Stay aware of these signs and you will find quality men looking to create an epic love, while eliminating those who don’t.
Online dating can be a challenge in itself. Constantly swiping and scrolling through thousands of profiles. You want to stand out and be noticed. You want to be different than all the rest. Lets get real. No one is swiping right for a blurry pic, a shirtless mirror selfie, or a frat boy slamming a beer. Attractive? I think not. The tips below will have you shine like a diamond, attracting high quality matches, that could just be your catch.
Get Professional Pictures
Investing in some creative and professional shots will do wonders for you! They look amazing, are eye catching, and will get you noticed. Just think, a stellar photo or some circa 1999 photo that you randomly found buried in your facebook. Yea, point made.
Clear, flattering photos where you are wearing a smile!
Smile!! Big, big smile!! Everyone is attracted to happiness, carefreeness, and a beautiful light energy. Nothing conveys this more than a beautiful smile. Don’t post pictures of an angry face or duck lips. So not a good look.
Show your personality
Display yourself doing something you love! Whether it is hiking, the beach, a picnic, a sport, etc; this is eye catching and gives an idea of what you are like!
Full body and face shots
Always include 2 full body pictures and two solo pictures of yourself. Show yourself off! Choose flattering angles and lighting to really let yourself shine.
Follow these simple tips and you will be well on your way to online dating success and having more matches than you know what to do with!