Love Vs Fear

Are you struggling being single? Do you feel that you put in a ton of effort but still have no dates, no men, no NOTHING? It is not that you are meant to be single, called to be single, or that the world is holding out on you. In fact, you are meant to have love! It is for you. It is your birthright. So, if you are looking for a sign, this is your sign. Love is just around the corner. It is about choosing love, being love, and most importantly, believing in love. Follow these tips below, and claim the love that is waiting for you!

  • In all moments, realize you can choose love or fear. Fear is the most common problem when single. Your ego tells you that you can’t have love, that maybe it is not meant for you, that there are no quality men or women, etc, etc. You in those moments of fear based thoughts, can choose love! See yourself as love and it will be here before you know it!

 

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  • Love is not just for the special people. Love is for all! Remember that no one is more deserving for a soulmate. We all are! In times of doubt, remember that you are negatively special

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  • Believe. You truly have to believe that your love desire and yearning for a partner is the truth! Keep deciding that love is for you and I promise, it will be

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Fear is the biggest problem with singles today. We are so consumed with thoughts that just are not the truth. If you keep focusing on love and becoming love, your love life will start to shift. It is all about your mindset and setting an intention.

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Chasing Men

Ever find yourself so consumed with anxiety after a date? OMG, should I call him, text him, make him mine? What do I need to do? What about if I just send this message or picture? I know every woman has done this. I know I have. We all feel that we need to take so much action in our love life. We all feel if we say the wrong thing or make a mistake, he may not choose us. We all have this desire to join every dating app, dating site, dating event that ever existed in hopes to find our soulmate only to be disappointed. Chasing and hunting never works my friends. It is about inspired action with a clear and aligned heart. You won’t have to chase the right man. You won’t have to remind him of your existence. He will just know. He will know that you are the high quality woman he wants. Let him lead. Let him pursue. Let him chase you. Below are some tips to follow to not be the pursuer, but to be that desirable woman that is a man magnet.

 

  • Be confident. Sounds easy, right? Not so much. It takes inner work and awareness! You need to exude an authentic confidence. Your true essence. Really staying in your power and knowing your worth and what you deserve

 

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  • Be feminine and leaned back. Lean back, ladies! Know your worth. Stay in your feminine power. Men are hunters, you are not ūüėČ

 

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  • Be willing to receive. Allow yourself to be and receive your desired man! You are the prize and worth pursuing. Make sure you fully receive this.

 

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Follow these tips and you will have men chasing you! Never having to chase them.

Deal Killers For a First Date

Sometimes you really only get one shot with a date. That dream girl or dream guy. They say, you only have one chance to make a first impression. This stands true! As nerve wracking as dating is in general, it is important to put your best foot forward and be prepared to really be the best version of yourself. Sometimes, there is not second chance. You can’t turn back time and redo things that you once did on your date. Soooo… be prepared and go into a date with a positive attitude and most importantly, a big smile. Follow the tips below and your first impression will be a lasting one.

  • Be Positive

Stay away from negative and heavy topics.  No one wants to hear about your horrific ex, how catastrophic dating is, how you hate your job, boss, life, car..blah blah,blah. Check Please!

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  • Don’t bring up future dates with other people

This is a huge turn off. No one wants to hear about the 5 or 6 other potentials you are juggling. Not a good look. Your date does not want to feel like just a number. Plus, no need to talk about it. If it goes well, you may not need to go out with others!

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  • Checking your phone

Ahhh! This is the worst. 60% of people consider this to be deal breaker. This is not challenging to understand. Your date wants your full attention and for you to be present. You don’t want to appear disinterested and that your phone addiction is real.

  • Don’t Get Drunk

This seems like an obvious one, but throwing back several drinks to calm the nerves, is not the best choice. Stick to a two drink maximum. You do not want to embarrass yourself and get sloppy drunk. That will guarantee not being asked out again. Not the goal, right?

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  • Wearing a lame t-shirt or sloppy outfit

It is important to dress to impress. Men, Ed Hardy is over. No graphic tees, please! Show up in something that shows confidence and effort. Ladies, show up in something that is feminine and exudes your beauty.  No potato sacks or baggy tees. Trust me on this.

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These tips will make your dating life successful and have you get a second, third, and fourth date! Maybe even that awesome relationship you want ūüėČ

Signs A Man Is Ready To Commit

I bet there are sooo many women who have found themselves dating ” the unavailable man, Mr. Peter Pan, and the ultimate commitment phobe, who just can’t seem to pull the trigger. We all have been there! However, there are signs to pay attention to in order to know if you are dealing with the right type of men that you are wanting to attract into your life. Below are some tips to stay aware of when trying to find that diamond in the ruff.

  • Know his intention

Men who just want to “hang out” or ” are just looking to meet new friends” These terms all indicate a man that may not be on the relationship seeking path. When men use terms such as “date” it shows commitment and planning. No man who is ready for love will be afraid to use the word “date.”

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  • Reliable

Pay attention if a man gives you notice. If a man texts you an hour before asking you out, it may show signs of not being serious. If he gives plenty of notice and puts thought into the day and time, then that is something to really pay attention to because he is committed and showing follow through. It shows he values your time and whether or not you are a priority in his life

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  • Communication

You had an amazing date! It was so much fun and the night seemed just perfect. Then….crickets… not a word! This can mean more than you think. He is either not serious about finding a serious relationship or just simply, he is just not that into you.

 

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  • Exclusive Time

When a man makes time for you and only you, that is a great sign of a man seeking a commitment. He wants to get to know you on an emotional and deeper level. He is not in a rush for physicality, but establishing a foundation that will lead to love.

Reasons For No Second Date

Dating today definitely has its challenges. With so many options, many men and women experience the one and done date time and time again. It can be difficult to land that second date and make an incredible impression! Many of you have experienced an incredible date where you felt it was amazing, filled with chemistry….and then crickets. No call. No text. Not a word. There are very possible reasons why this happens. You spend hours analyzing why they didn’t contact you. Below, are the top reasons why a second date may not happen.

  • Not being real and coming across fake

Everyone wants to be on their best behavior on a first date, but there is huge difference from being real and authentic to having to be perfect and amazing at everything. People appreciate flaws, being down to earth, and most importantly, just being yourself

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  • Being Too Real

Everyone appreciates realness and honesty, however, some people can over do it. Airing your dirty laundry, skeletons in your closet, and sharing way too much all at once, is not well received. It is too much for one to take in. Keeping it light and fun is key.

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  • Only Talking About Yourself

When you can’t stop talking about yourself and make yourself the center of all conversation, your date loses interest. You may find them with a blank stare not even paying attention to what you are saying. Keep the conversation going back and forth. Ask questions. Be engaged with each other.

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  • Poor Hygiene

You don’t have to be perfect and dressed to the nines. However, not representing yourself in the best light, has its consequences. We all notice if a man or woman comes to a date looking sloppy, wearing a dirty shirt, messy hair, and not smelling up to par. When you ate a garlic tuna sandwich for lunch as one can guess, not a good look. Point made.

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  • Awful Conversation Topics

When you go on and on about your ex. Your date doesn’t want to hear it. Not only is it uncomfortable, we don’t care. Sorry. We want to know you, not your past relationship. Talking about politics is a recipe for disaster. Stay away from topics that will possibly cause an argument. You want fun, light, and happy conversation. The date should be fun, after all.

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Follow these tips and you will be well on your way to finding love and experiencing more and more quality dates.

What Women Want, Top Questions Women Ask

Finally, the data men have all been waiting for: what do women really want to know on a first date?
QuestionPie2During The Catch’s private beta testing, we allowed our users to choose between asking questions from our own categorized database or¬†inputing their own.
Graph on the left shows that while many went for similar preset questions from our categories (represented by the larger circles), the majority chose to input their own unique questions (represented by the smaller circles).

Below are the top questions by category. Men, take note!

Questions Created by our Users

Question Created by our Users

  • If your life can be summed up by a movie title, what would it be called?
  • What is your drink of choice?
  • It’s the apocalypse. All that remains of the world is you and the SF zoo. Which animal do you eat¬†first and why?
  • List three of the most gentlemanly things you’ve ever done for a woman.
  • You have to plan a date but do it without spending any money. What would you do?

Category: Lifestyle

Lifestyle

  • Describe your ideal Sunday.
  • What kinds of things really make you laugh?

Category: Fun

Fun

  • What did you dress up as for Halloween last year?
  • What is your favorite superpower?

Category: Interest

Common Interests

  • If you could take a vacation anywhere, where would you go and why?
  • Where would you take me on our first date?

Category: Family

Family

  • Describe your dream house.
  • Are you close with your parents? Why or why not?

Category: Culture

Culture

  • Tell me about your favorite American city.
  • Describe the strangest place you’ve ever visited.

Category: Food

Food

  • What is your favorite brunch spot in the city?
  • What is your favorite food?